We often talk about love, but do you know that love really is a "talk"?
English and Chinese are interesting.When it comes to love, the English says "fall in love", and the Chinese will say "talking" in love, falling into a deep and unfriendly feeling, while the Chinese word "talk" seems to be pale, but scientists have confirmed that love is really closely related to the way we talk.womany is particularly going to share with you, in the latest issue of Psychological Science in the Global Psychological Science, — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — —
This research focuses on the use habits of Function Words.The function word is not a noun, nor a verb, but rather a vocabulary of a sentence binding sentence.It is very difficult for us to define what is meant by functional words, but in fact we are using such a function, such as this (this), or (or), and/and so on, all of which are called functional words.
How do we organize our speech statements, how we use the functional words of these connected sentences, originally related to social activities.James Pennebaker, a professor at the University of Texas at Austin, says, "The word" word " is a product of highly intergeneralization and requires social skills to use.For example, I'm talking about an article that's about to be published, and in a few minutes I'm going to mention a few "this article", and you and I will know what this article represents.But those who do not participate in this conversation will not understand.(Extended reading: [Video ACT] Cotton: "It's important to be in love with yourself, it's more important than ever to love anyone" )
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James Pennebaaker and his colleagues have conducted two experiments on how to talk and write between lovers, comparing the language patterns of different couples with computer programs, and observing how they can actually predict the future behavior of the two people, as well as the stability of long-term relationships.
In the first experiment, they videotaped a few of their college students' conversations in a four-minute date.Almost every pair has the same theme: What are you doing?Where are you?What do you think of the university?While the meat ear sounds more or more similar to each dialogue, the language analysis is found to be clearly different when it is true that the language analysis is carried out in a scientific way.The percentage of the language is more than that of the average group. It is hoped that the proportion of people who wish to maintain contact will be four times the number of those who have a low synchronized speech.
The second experiment, they also study the online trend of online chatting.They also found that if they were chatting online with the same type of text, almost 80 percent would still go on their date three months later, while those who were not that fit would reduce 26 percent of their success, and only 54 percent would continue to go out with each other.The content of people's words may be important, but the word "may," may reveal more information about the two people.
People don't consciously adjust their conversation, and Pennebaker says, " The best thing is that we don't make a decision ourselves; it's just natural to come out of the language." So when you and a new person are beginning to feel pretty good, I have been chatting on the Internet for a few days, and I feel very sorry for each other. This is definitely not your charisma enough. Maybe it's just a simple way to talk to each other.(Recommended reading: Chat with everyone: Four main points of chat reading )
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