Text|Womany Jiaqi
For single mothers, there are not only prejudices, but also nosyness, such as "Aren't you going to remarry soon?" Why are the world's views on single mothers and single fathers so different?
"I'm a 35-year-old single, but please don't tell me to go on a date anymore.
The world always says this and that to single mothers. They advise on how to raise children, how to save, how to balance work and life, and how to "catch another man and make him accept you and your child".
However, Katherine Ryan, who is from Canada, expressed a completely different idea on this Netflix talk show. She is a mother living in London, 35 years old, single. I have one cute daughter who speaks British English. I am raising my daughter with my ex-boyfriend.
This poisonous tongue mom made a lot of jokes. Behind her jokes as a feminist is her belief that you don't have to worry about instructions from those around you, and that everyone, not just single mothers, has the right to live as they please.
#男はイルカ: I love dolphins, but I don't think I need to have one at home!
Catherine is often asked why she doesn't have a boyfriend, but she's better suited for casual relationships. "Have you ever seen a dolphin?
"I love dolphins, they're cute, they're smart, and I love playing with them. But you don't have to keep one at home, do you? I don't even know what the bait is doing. Moreover, all dolphins are lewd. Oops, I have to put a hashtag for #NOTALLDOLPHIN (not all dolphins). You understand what it means[1]."
Another fact is, "I was thinking of dating someone, but I realized that I wasn't suitable for this game. What is it? Why should I be with you?" It's like wanting a romantic relationship is always the right thing to do.
"If I were a doctor and I let patients die all the time or burn down the operating room, my family would not be able to say, 'I was just unlucky,' 'when will I return to the operating room?' or 'I'll get better next time.'
#"Men only accept pink nail polish" - I don't know that.
The world teaches boys to "be" someone and girls to "find" someone. But I refuse both. （Man are taught to be somebody, and girls are taught to find somebody. But I choose to do none of them.)
"Too many people tell women to trick men into making them their own, and I've been told, 'Hey Catherine, if you always wear fancy and complicated clothes, you'll confuse men.'"
"Really? But you don't have cricket rules written on my clothes, what are you talking about?" Catherine said that she had also been complained about the color of her nails.
"I've been told, 'Catherine, men can only accept pink nails like ballet shoes, and if it's black, they'll be confused.'"
The public's opinion on women's clothes is simply simple. It is better to have fewer patterns, it is better to appeal to your body line more, and they say, "This is how you can understand men," but the purpose of women wearing something is not to be understood by men. Just wear what you want.
Catherine is a single mother, so it is often said that "a woman with children must take care of her children with someone." But from her point of view, this is just a gender stereotype. Are there any problems in such a household? There is nothing wrong with that.
"Are there any single mothers here?" she asked, but there was no reply to the venue.
"That's good, because you should stay at home in the first place." Hearing this, the two women hesitated and slowly raised their hands.
"Good, there is one, no, two. Are you dating anyone?"
"Yes," I replied with a little hesitation.
Catherine pointed out that the need to be so hesitant to reveal that you are a single mother shows that there is prejudice in society.
"I hate people who keep telling me to go out with you or not to go out with me.
#もし私がロンドンで家を持っているシングルファーザーだったら will definitely be popular
"I recently bought a house in London, and if I were a single father, I would definitely be popular. People ask, 'How did such a young man buy a house in London and raise his daughter super cute by himself?'"
Have you seen a popular Youtube video recently? It's a video called "A Mysterious Father Ties His 4-Year-Old Daughter's Hair," and it has 40 million views. I don't know why, anyone can do this.
However, women from all over the world were fascinated. They are lying, why is this dad still single, can they line up? I have lost my mind.
"This is the difference."
The attitude of the world towards single fathers and single mothers is different. If you are a single mother, it is natural to clean, do laundry, do housework, and write a contact book for your children. So she said, "Set yourself free, do whatever a single father can."
#部屋の改装: When the carpenter asks who the owner of this house is, he says, "I'm still at school."
"Recently, I've been renovating my house with my daughter Violet. We had Scandinavian flowers, the main colors were rose gold and matte copper, but we chose a lot of such flowers and tried to decorate the house, but the carpenter looked at the blueprint and said, 'That's not good, no man wants to live in such a house.'"
"Oh yes, why don't you start right away?" Catherine replied.
However, the carpenter instructed me again, "It's better not to decorate the toilet wall with 'Golden Girl'."
"The more you are told, the more you want to do it," Catherine retorted.
Violet's room is called the glitter room, and she wants glitter wallpaper, floors, and disco balls, but when the carpenter hears this, he seems to faint and says, "When will the owner of this house come back?"
In response, Catherine countered, "Well, I'm leaving school in two hours, so start early, she's scared."
#家庭はさまざまで, "I hope that in any family, no one will be ashamed."
Catherine is a poisonous tongue to the core, but she is kind to children. He made a lot of jokes about his daughter on the talk show, but in an interview with the British newspaper The Guardian, he revealed that all the stories about his daughter were corrected, and that he rarely showed or showed pictures of his daughter.
At 35 years old this year, she thinks she is still too young to marry rashly. She hates being pushed to date men and loves flashy clothes, and she wants to be a wonderful mother while her daughter still thinks she's cool.
This is her story. Not only does it make the listener laugh, but it also makes many people realize that they are not alone.
"You don't have to think you have to be like me, there are many different families in this world, and I hope that no one will be ashamed of any family," she said.
[1] It refers to #NOTALLMEN (not all men do)
[2] Golden Girl is a '90s American sitcom about four grandmothers living together, refreshing the dark image of the lives of older adults.