Graduation season near, together with the 2015 Matthew McConaughey in University of Houston's graduation speech: Life is never easy, we have to try to put down the goals and limitations, to feel the life to bring you the truth.
Year in, Phoenix Flower cry Blood, in the treetops burning red sky, we smell the life growth of fishy and joy, like a caterpillar butterfly, you have to experience the days squeeze, not light time dormant, repeated self-doubt and confidence reconstruction, can in the most beautiful in the mood for love, light dance.
To 2018 graduates, excerpts Oscar best actor Matthew McConaughey gave University of Houston's graduation speech, Matthew McConaughey's acting road, always for the truth of the drama, to figure out the role of the mood and the full time, 2014 starred in "Drug club" in AIDS patients, For the play minus 21 kilograms, some people say such a move too, but for Matthew McConaughey, his philosophy is to do anything when all the investment, only to be worthy of their own.
And in the sharing of the graduation speech, he from his fame after the red confusion, the definition of success speaks to him, the true meaning of life, the eight of life's proverbs he draws from his own experience, to tell you plainly: life is never easy, but only by letting go of goals and limitations, you can fully appreciate the present and feel the truth that life brings to you.
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I, I graduated in 1988 and received a university degree in 1993. What university degree? That's not so important. No tickets, no coupons, no free passes to any job anywhere. So, what does your college degree mean? means that you have an education that means you have more knowledge of a particular subject and occupation, meaning you may have more expertise in your degree.
But what is the value of it in today's job market?
We all know that the current college graduates market is more competitive than ever before.
Some of you may have found a job, some of whom today's work may be a career plan for the future, but for most of you the future is still vague-you don't get the work you can do after you finish this major, and many people don't have a job at all.
You've just completed a school education course in your life--from the age of 5 to the current curriculum. But your vision of the future may not be clearer than it was 5 years ago, you graduated, but your future is vague and there is no answer, I think it is a bit scary.
It doesn't matter, though, because it's the reality you're facing-the real world we live in. I am not here to discourage you, or to diminish in any way what you are celebrating tonight, I have to talk here about the difficulties of life, skip flattery, because I know exactly one thing: sooner or later we will become more and more meaningless--for our lives, our achievements, our careers, and our future. We become less aware of life, achievement, and career and spend more time in it, so the sooner we deal with it, the better.
I'll talk to you about some of the things I learned in my travels--some from experience, some I hear, more I'm still practicing, but every experience is real.
1. You know what? Life is not easy, actually.
First of all, life is not easy. Don't try to put your life in a relaxed way. Life is never fair, it's not, it never will be. So don't get caught up in the right trap where you're the victim, you're not! We have to learn to overcome it and live it. The truth is that most things become more valuable when you can-do to get it for something.
2. When you are persistent in pursuit of results, you will forget to feel the joy of the process.
"I want to be happy." "I always hear that voice. But, what is happiness? Happiness is the emotional response to results-if I win, I will be happy, if I do not like, I will be unhappy. If so, causality is the exchange standard that we cannot afford, because we raise it immediately every time we get it. You see, happiness needs a certain result, which is the result dependent.
If happiness is what you are after, you will often be disappointed and will feel unhappy most of the time. However, joy is another matter. This is not a choice, nor is it a response to a result, but a constant. Whatever the outcome, happiness is "the feeling that we are engaged in what we do."
Personally, as an actor, I enjoy my job, when I stop trying to make everyday work a means of doing something-I need this movie to have a successful box office, I need my performance to be recognized, I need respect from my peers-and when I lay down these attachments, I begin to enjoy my work, And feel greater happiness than literal. (Recommended reading: life please flatter yourself!) James Franco's graduation speech: "When you really like, you will be willing to do anything")
But the fact is, work, film production, contract action itself has become a return, when I am willing to put down the dedication to enjoy the work, I have more than before the box office, more praise and respect. You see, joy is everywhere-it's always in the process of your effort, feeling it and enjoying your work.
3. Ask yourself, what is the definition of "success" in your mind?
A few years ago, I went to a voodoo store in southern New Orleans--they had a lot of "magic" potions stacked on top of it, each defining what they would give you--fertility, health, family, energy, forgiveness, money.
Guess which column is empty? Money.
Let us acknowledge that "money" is the king of the present, making the world a complete one. Money is a success, the more we have it, the more "successful" We are, right?
I think our cultural values have even been financial--modesty is no longer popular, it's too passive. This is a world where the Internet is fast getting rich and we are all famous for 15 minutes of life.
But do we all want to succeed? The question we have to ask ourselves is: What success have we achieved and what success has been achieved for you? More money? Well, I'm not against money. But can it also be a healthy family? A happy marriage? Help others? Fame? Listen to the voice of the heart? Make the world better than you find?
Keep asking yourself this question. Your answer may change over time, which is fine, but please help yourself:
No matter what your answer is, don't choose any method that will sacrifice your soul.
Prioritize who you are, who you want to be, and don't give up anything that goes against your personality and beliefs. Life is not a popular game. Be brave and build a mountain, but answer these questions before you make a mountain that belongs to you: "What is the hill of my expectations, the success I desire?" 」
How do I define success? For me, it's about five things--father, good husband, health, profession, friendship. These are important to me.
So, I try to measure these five numbers a day.
For example, sometimes my career is developing, but I see that my relationship with my wife may require more effort and attention, and I want to be a good husband and balance every thing that matters to me. When my social life is active, I may lack the time to take care of my psychological feelings, I have to recalibrate, check and maintain balance.
We have to define for ourselves what success means to us, and then we have to put our work into defending these things.
4. Value every choice you have
What is bread crumbs? The crumbs that I'm talking about are the choices we make that allow us to stand higher and farther away from our future.
You owe a man money, and you just saw him sitting three rows behind you tonight. Last night you drank too much and the hangover prevented you from taking your son to the Saturday baseball training ... these are all mistakes! They appear in the form of remorse, guilt, and remorse-you leave them today, they will bring you more pressure, they will make you lose the creation of a planned future.
So let's flip the script. Instead of creating mistakes that bring us results, let us have the discipline to create more results, pay our rewards, fill our gaps, and let these things brighten your life and bring energy.
This is what I call the choice-the beauty of deferred gratification.
Start now and do yourself a favor. Value every choice-the choices you make today will be the result of tomorrow's return to your life.
5. Stop obsessing about failure, try to analyze your success
We often pay attention to our failure. We study them. We have a crush on them. We remove them. We finally revel in the illusion of failure.
When we feel depressed, we write diaries; when we see the flaws of others, we may start gossiping. Carelessly, we are always easily caught in the cycle of self-loathing-and I find that most of our obsession with the wrong leads to more mistakes and more failures.
The easiest way to dissect success is to be thankful.
Thanks for what we have, for the things that are running, for the simple things that we sometimes take for granted. We appreciate these things, thank you for the rewards and create more Thanksgiving. It's simple, and it works.
I'm not denying your failure. No, we can learn from mistakes, but only if we look at them in a constructive manner. By making mistakes as a means of revealing what we are good at, we are able to do better in our mistakes and gradually find our way to success. (Recommended reading: Markzockburg's Harvard Graduation Speech: "Our society is not often great because we are afraid of failure")
Life is a verb, although not always satisfactory, but we do our best.
Architecture is also a verb. We are the architects of our lives, so let us study habits, practice the habits we develop, and provide help for our success--our happiness, our honesty, our pain, our laughter, our tears, and with our grateful heart to dissect them, you will learn more about yourself in the process.
6. All the restrictions you gave yourself.
Did you ever feel suffocated? You know what I mean, like a blank in the middle of an exam, a speech in front of 4,000 graduates that tells a joke about silence. Or maybe sometimes you feel the same way: "Oh my God, life can't be better, why do I have to go through this?" 」
What happens when we have this feeling? We start to get nervous and we see ourselves in the third person. We realized that the moment of fear and tension was greater than ours. Have you ever felt this way? I have.
This is because we create a fictitious ceiling, a roof, to meet our expectations of ourselves, that is the limit we give ourselves-we always think it's good to give ourselves a goal and a limit. But it's not like that! We should not believe in the right to limit and not create a framework for ourselves.
If we keep the process, focus on our own hearts, and rejoice in the process of practice, we will never suffocate when we cannot go beyond the finish line.
Why? Because we did not consider the finish line, we did not gaze at the clock, we were on a journey that was still to be completed, and how to practice was the ultimate goal of the trip.
7. Your fear makes you see yourself differently.
Do you know those T-shirts with the words "no fear"? I always don't understand. I try to scare myself once a day. I have a faster heartbeat every morning before work. I was always nervous before the speech. I think fear is a good thing. Why? Because it gives us a sense of where we need to go to overcome this fear.
Rather than denying fear, admit them, speak out loud and feel the cause of these fears. Don't give up trying to deny the existence of fear and give up the need to overcome them.
So embrace your fears and let your fears help you find the courage to overcome them. When you overcome one fear and become stronger, you are more respectful of the things that make you fear and the ones you try to overcome. (Recommended reading: Not sure is a good thing!) Harvard President Forster's graduation speech: "Use your life, say a fresh story")
8. How do we know that we are experiencing the truth of life?
I often travel for 21 days-taking myself to places where no one knows the language and nobody knows me. It was an adventure, a clean stream that could wash me out. 21 days from the daily rush of things to put forward, when the original in the life of the set up the business disappeared, I can feel myself.
When I became famous in a movie called "A Time to Kill" in 1996, I started a 21-day trip to the jungles and mountains of Peru.
I have a little bit of a reputation for fame. My face is everywhere, everyone wants me, and people who have never met swear they "love me"-everywhere I go, billboards and magazines cover me. It was strange to me, and I began to wonder what was real and what was false, should I get it all? I keep asking myself these questions.
And another question: "Who am I?" 」
It was the 12th night of my 21-day trip. I was camping, and I was 80 miles away, and I was on a three-day trek to Machu Picchu.
I suddenly felt extremely tired of myself. Guilty of my past sins, filled with regrets at that moment. I feel very lonely, to own a person to run the company and must constantly and deal with their inner feelings feel disgusted.
I couldn't sleep that night. All the badges and banners as well as the expectations and anxieties I carry. I need to get rid of them ...
Who am I? I asked myself. Not just on this trip, but in my life. So I stripped everything. I took off every nickname that gave me pride and confidence, and I lost my lucky hat and amulet. Even abandoned the gold ring my father gave me.
I am completely naked, whether in practical or figurative sense. So I was sick, tired and nauseous, until I vomited into my belly without leaving my bile, and finally I disappeared from exhaustion.
A few hours later, I woke up on the 13th morning and saw a sunrise.
Surprisingly, I felt fresh and energetic, I put on my clothes, had some tea and took a walk in the morning. Not Machu Picchu toward my destination, but walking aimlessly. Last night's experience still makes me excited, I feel good: alive, clean, free, refreshing
I walked in a muddy path, turned a corner, and in the middle of the road was the most magnificent pink, blue and red Mirage I had ever seen. It is electric, luminous and energetic.
I stopped and stared at it. I had no way to get around it: the Mirage in front of me was actually thousands of butterflies clustered there. There, on my way. It was very spectacular.
Where I spent some time, I heard a little voice in my head saying:
"What I want is what I see and what I see in front of me." 」
For the first time, I stopped predicting what was going to happen on this trip, no longer thinking about what would happen next, and what would happen in the future. Time slowed down and I was no longer in a hurry to go anywhere. My anxiety was relieved.
I forgave myself the other day. I gave up my guilt, the burden on my shoulders lifted, my confession in vain, and I returned to God's good situation. I shook hands with myself, my best friend, and we all clung to it anyway. From that morning, the adventure was great. I appeared in my own way, not expecting the next, but embracing what was in front of me.
That morning I went through the truth of a life. Did I find it? I don't know, I think it found me. Why? Because I put myself in a place where I can find it. I put myself in the place of accepting the truth.
So how do we know when we're going through the truth?
I believe the truth is always around us. Answer, you know, it's always there. But we don't always see it, grab it, hear it, approach it--because we don't fit.
So what do we do?
First, we must put ourselves in the place of accepting the truth. We live in an extremely noisy world, with all kinds of frequencies in front of us-commitments, deadlines, problem solving, planning, expectations-all of which make it difficult for us to feel ourselves clearly and confidently.
So we have to consciously put ourselves in a place where we can accept this clarity. Whether it's prayer, meditation, walking, road travel, and arranging time for a place to accept the truth.
Now, if we hear the truth and feel it becoming clearer, then what we are going to think about is: how can I let this truth be practiced in my own life?
Ask yourself, does this truth really apply to me? Does this truth conflict with my personality? Why do I need this truth? How should it actually be used in my life?
When you do this, then the third part is: patiently apply this learned truth to all aspects and translate it into your values and beliefs.
From the head to the soul, turn the truth into the value of the things you see. This part is not urgent, it takes time. We receive the truth, apply it to life, practice in thought, and have the courage to act. Really bring the truth that we perceive into our daily life and practice, and make it a part of ourselves and our lives.
If we can do that, then we have a heaven on earth.
The place we want is exactly where we need it. I mean, that's the ticket, isn't it? That leads to the life we want!
So let's create a place where we can sweat the value we believe, enjoy the process of success, and how we shape it. Because we are so busy doing what we are good at and enjoying the process, there is no need to camp for the future. Write the story of your life, overcome your fears, and make friends with yourself on the journey of life.
That's what I'm talking about in heaven.
Wish you all the best and always try to live.