Every time you want rational communication, but always because of different opinions and quarrel, and even start personal attacks? If you are tired of such a discussion environment, a set of community communication guides is exactly what you need!

Modern people have a machine, nothing new around them, or want to discuss any serious issues, such as politics, society, gender, as long as you open any community: FB, Twitter, Instagram, PTT, Dcard, press and send out, you can let the world see your point of view.

But I believe that many people have encountered this kind of thing: Obviously the original intention is a, because the lower argument below a different message, the two sides began to argue, quarrelling to the end, found that the two people discussed is not the original intention of a, but began to carry out personal attacks.

If you are also tired of such a discussion environment, a set of "Community communication Guides" may be a good way to maintain a friendly community, today's d&i column, I would like to talk to you, the concept of d&i in addition to the implementation of the enterprise, but also in the weekday community to play an impact!

The GNU program is a free software collective collaboration program, and its promoter, Richard Stallman, has published a set of GNU friendly communication guides (GNU Kind communications Guidelines), resulting from the continued occurrence of developers crowding out women in GNU since August, He hopes to build a diverse and inclusive community discussion environment through this set of guidelines.

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What if I don't agree with other people's views?

This guide makes it clear that even if you disagree with others, it is important to acquiesce that everyone is very sincere in sending a message, while respecting each person's religious beliefs, gender, race, cultural background, political position, avoiding personal attacks, or using the name they want to be called to address each other. Do anything and think about one thing first: how can I respect him?

So in speaking, you can say in particular that your response is only to the wrong person (you should also be conscious). Even if there are obvious factual errors in the discussion on each other's issues, please come up with tolerance and kindness to help each other solve the problem. In response, please also respond to each other's "What you actually say" rather than exaggerate their point of view. A proposal that focuses on the actual point of view is truly constructive.

Because the Pingquan is approaching, love the family and the affirmative side have each point of view, this debate, if you want to talk with the opposition to the Pingquan of friends and family, you can do this:

  1. Find each other's anxieties and believe that all those who disagree with you have their own concerns and that the other person has no intention of hurting anyone.
  2. Before the conversation, say, "I understand, then my answer is for events, not for you, and if you feel stabbed, you can tell me in real time." I think ⋯⋯"
  3. To give facts to the views expressed by the other party, for example, when the other party proposes that "comrades will increase the rate of AIDS infection", "gay children will deviate", and "gay education in the teaching of sexual liberation", you can put forward the correct numbers and information on the problem, rather than let the answer render the emotion. (Recommended reading: Pingquan to the Disinformation and communication toolkit: same-sex marriage and another special law )

What if the other person replies to irrationality?

In the face of irrational responses, we are mostly unable to control the mood, in a hurry to jump to another level and the other side of the theory, friendly communication guide specifically mentioned that when you feel attacked by words, please let the attack stop here, no longer need to rely on the other side of emotional statements to fight back, because this will only create a vicious circle, so that the

So you can be private to the other person, politely indicate that your emotions have been hurt, and ask for an angry discussion to subside, like: "I know you and I want each other to understand their point of view, I think now each other can calm down a little bit, Let's talk about ⋯⋯". If you're on the air, calm yourself down for hours, or calm down for a day, wait until the mood is calm, and then send out the words. The remarks made on the head of the air are absolutely unhelpful. (Recommended reading: Grapefruit Sweet column | Chicken talk? Values are like words, and translation skills are required )

What if the discussion is already crooked?

First of all, it is time for those involved in the discussion to consciously avoid leaving the subject, and if you think that other topics are well worth discussing, you can give another sticker, let other interested people go to another discussion, or wait for the main topic to end before initiating a discussion. Take go, for example, when everything is deadlocked, the most advantageous way is not to wait for a response, but to move elsewhere.

In an age when everyone is free to express their opinions, if they want to be respected by others, they must start from themselves. Create a friendly community communication environment in order for each discussion to be meaningful and for others to be brave enough to express their views. Whether it is the recent issue of affirmative action or election, each has its own thinking, each has its own expression, we should be able to accommodate different views, stand on the benchmark of reason, respect and matter, and this is the first step in the practice of Pluralistic Communion (d&i), but also the most valuable place in a democratic society!