When it comes to the Spring Festival, many people think about how to plan the holiday, think about how to grasp the opportunity, return home and parents petulant, and brother and sister chatted chat, but for some people, "New Year Home", is so heavy, even can expect to get the day of reunion scene. When everyone has a big bag of luggage home, you walk alone on an empty campus, you think, this year will not go home.
When it comes to the Spring Festival, many people think about how to plan the holiday, think about how to grasp the opportunity, return home and parents petulant, and brother and sister chatted chat, but for some people, "New Year Home", is so heavy, even can expect to get the day of reunion scene.
You look at the roommate with the bed happy to pack your bags, while picking up the phone call from your family, the face is a happy expression. When everyone has a big bag of luggage home, you walk alone on an empty campus, you think, this year will not go home.
May be a distant journey back, may be afraid of relatives of sour words, repeated emotional work to ask, afraid of parents constantly quarrelling about, choose not to go home is a solution, but would you like to give both sides a chance to sit down and communicate well?
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This spring festival, perhaps, is a chance to start again. Try to re-communicate with parents, relatives, or try to face the loneliness of a person in a foreign land, re-build a life ceremony for themselves, we put together a different way of communication for you, so that you can resolve the past this year encountered the melancholy of the Spring Festival, give yourself a warm 2019:)
The more you grow up, the less you know how to get along with your parents?
After leaving school, work, think of returning home, can not help but a little afraid: the quarrel between parents let you suffocate breathless; your insistence on the future always runs counter to your parents, and as soon as you return home, you hear them ask you to resign and return to their homes; what your family asks you to do is far more than you can load, but ask you to
Parent-Child get along, is a lifetime of the subject, give you the Spring Festival parent-child practice, now start trying, you can let things a little turn, recommend six of the rules of getting along with parents:
- Contradictory emotions are the norm! Why have we become spiritual strangers to our parents?
- Can't communicate with your parents? You don't have to give your parents more love than they give you.
- How do you get along with your parents when you are an adult? Practice being friends with your parents.
- | Really love his parents on the way home, give them back their parents ' subjects
- How to get rid of family emotional blackmail? True filial piety is not obedience, but communication.
- How to face the expectations of parents? I will not change you, and I ask you to respect my thoughts.
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Relatives of the forced, always let you not be able to restrain emotions?
After the old can not marry out, now there is no beginning to find the object? How long can you do this job now, and when are you going to change a better job? Your mom and dad still depend on you to raise hey!
The annual investigation of the wealth, over time has become a burden, originally held with the "do not marry can also live very well" idea, or in the relatives of the press, began to have doubts: Am I really no one want? Am I going to elderly for the rest of my life? Am I going to have a baby to take care of myself for my retirement? Does not make a achievement, on behalf of my future hopeless?
The problems are annoying, but before you get angry, try both ways to think:
- Why are their problems bothering me? Am I not sure I'm holding it myself?
If a relative's question makes you start to wonder about yourself, it's also a good time to examine why you don't have faith in your current state of work and why you're anxious about "not getting married." After finding the problem, you can reply to the relatives: "Thank you aunt's concern, I am now also thinking about changing jobs, just worried about not enough ability, I hope I can strengthen the skills to move back to the post, after any good news, I will tell you." 」
- Relatives of the problem, are another form of concern, perhaps I in addition to ignoring, can stand from their point of view, firmly express their position?
Sometimes, relatives ' questions are sharper, but think of it as a concern, try to communicate with this angle of view, convey their unchanging ideas: "Thank you brother-, I think this is also a good proposal, but my current situation is, so I feel that the present state is very comfortable and comfortable for me, But I feel the care of brother-, thank you! 」
In addition, five elder communication packages are available below:
- Everyone has a New Year's project! Three psychological exercises to have a good reunion dinner
- Spring Festival Panic disorder: Why do old love ask me about graduation, work, have objects?
- How to face the fatigue bombing of the elders? Six good books, exclusive to your New Year's Day survival pack
- Why do relatives ' problems make you uncomfortable? Because we're all afraid to face ourselves.
- Spring Festival Self-help guide: How to establish a more mature interaction with family members?
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Alone in a foreign land, with their own like why not lonely?
Many of the swimmers in the off-site fight, after considering various conditions, decided not to go home for the holidays. Although always say "every holiday si Kin tong", but you can take advantage of this spring festival, build your life model, such as cooking a pot of good tea for yourself at a fixed time, regular running to the riverside, reading a good book every week, and so on, alone, is the beginning of a new life. A person to see a movie, a person sports, a person to eat ... these activities, it seems lonely, but as people indispensable solitude, not disturbed by others mood, in order to let you see the most true self, fragile but incredibly strong.
Alone is not alone, you can find a more beautiful self:
- How can you help yourself achieve your ideal life through daily rituals?
- Love your daily Exercises: build your sense of rituals and let the universe support you
- Design The Life you Love
- "Ding Juan Column" knows that people who are alone have a real freedom.
- Solitude Aesthetics: Learn to be alone, to enjoy the plural life
- "Practice alone" a man watches a movie and hears himself in silence
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In the face of the above three kinds of anxiety, to provide you with the survival package, I hope we can all live a warm and comfortable spring festival! If you still need company, don't forget, women fan Spring Festival is also here to accompany you: