There are moments when we are almost overwhelmed by the uneasiness of life, living in anxiety and fear, filled with questions -- why do we need economic independence? What kind of state does it reach, which is economic independence? Where should economic independence begin? In 2019, let's put aside our fears, repair our relationship with money, and move on to a more confident and fearless ideal life!
Standing alone in the cold, windy streets, I looked over at the few account balances left after paying the rent, despairing and anxious.
I wish I had a dream life, live in a secure and warm apartment, keep two cats, give them the best food and shelter;
I wish I had the courage to pursue adventure, when work made me feel aggrieved, I had the option to turn around and go, the ability to create more possibilities for life, to travel a wayward wayward, not to wrong myself in terms of eating and wearing, and even to create my own career.
But there are moments when I'm almost overwhelmed by the insecurity of my life, living in anxiety and fear, full of questions -- why do I need economic independence? What kind of state does it reach, which is economic independence? Where should economic independence begin? (You'll like: When an economically independent sister: want to live, earn myself)
Economic independence is the bottom of the choice for one's own life
"Women need their own money and rooms to write, " says Woolf, referring to money, freedom and women's relationships.
A woman who can worry about it and concentrate on writing must have a free soul. She doesn't have to worry about not having enough money; she's afraid of losing her job and having a hard time living; and when she has new adventures about her ideal life, she can always make it come true and not be tied up by anyone. Because she has a fuck you money that doesn't have to be supplied by anyone.
If you have fuck you money, when you're in a difficult situation, or when a job or someone makes you unbearable, you can justifiably choose to leave.
If you have “ you money ＂ , and somethings not working out , and they say you have to take this job , or you ' re fired , you can be like “ you ＂ .
-- American actor Liu Yuling
"Your own money" makes us the freest people, because of savings and financial management, our lives are in our own hands, without relying on the support of others. According to the 2018 Women's Minds Economic Autonomy Survey, 77% of respondents believe that economic autonomy leads to a freer life and mindset. At the same time, more than 60% of the participants believed that through economic autonomy, they could improve their quality of life, have the ability to pamper themselves, and move towards their ideal goals. (You'll like:Infographic: Economic Autonomy Survey!) A diagram that takes you through a more confident life . . .
Economic autonomy can free us from anxiety and gradually become a strong, free and fearless woman with an independent life.
Strong, because economic autonomy allows us to have a safe and stable life, or even the ability to face unexpected changes; freedom, because we desire a better life, can be reached on our own, and even, economic autonomy brings us more possible options in life; fearless, because economic autonomy can give us the courage to pursue our dreams, whether it is a wayward journey, a career track, or to start our own business, we have the ability to refuse to make dreams into dreams.
We have a lot of desire, longing for their own strength, freedom, but also longing for their own dreams, bold and fearless to live once. But at the same time, we often feel uneasy about life and dissatisfied with the status quo. These anxieties and dissatisfaction, from we have not yet learned to get along with money, don't be afraid, embark on the path of becoming an ideal self, never too late, let us account to understand their own consumption habits to start, practice and money get along well.
Be a free man, starting with organizing your daily life
He Liling, a well-known female entrepreneur in Taiwan, is best known for her financial habits since elementary school, when she began to keep books before going to bed every day. In response, she once said, "Everyone has a confused account in their lives, and the longer it accumulates, the harder it is to sort it out." (You'll like: A financial lesson for a little girl: Where's your money?) Bookkeeping is not allowed )
So every day before going to bed, she always spends a few minutes sorting out her day's expenses. Bookkeeping is not so much about sorting out money as sorting out our lives and counting the mess of our lives. But when you haven't established the habit of recording every day, it's easy to get away with it, and it's not easy to get into it, so we've curated three pieces of advice from James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, to develop habits and practice getting along with money:
1. Set a goal that is too simple to refuse
In the process of establishing habits, persistence is more important than anything else, and it doesn't matter how well we perform in execution. Too ambitious goals are often accompanied by hard practice, stressful, and can't help but want to interrupt the plan and give up the effort.
So, in the early years of developing habits, set yourself super simple, simple enough to be funny, such as wanting to get fit, starting with doing one volt a day, and starting with writing, starting with writing three sentences a day.
After 30 days of maintaining this mini habit, slowly adjust the difficulty up, and developing a habit will naturally not bring too much stress. Want to start a bookkeeping journey together? Let's start with every consumption and keep it on your phone.
2. Take a moment to think about what prevents you from fulfilling your habits
Looking back, we all had plans that were set up but half-baked, rather than labeling ourselves "I'm not a sporty person" and "I'm just not good at sorting out our finances", we should put aside our self-blame and think about which links are hindering our plans to develop habits.
Maybe it's bedtime bookkeeping that makes people drowsy, maybe it's embarrassing to keep a book in front of others when we're out and about, and maybe there's more to it than just recording every purchase. But let's be patient with ourselves, do a few experiments like play, try different bookkeeping tools, record methods, or change the time of day, and maybe the problem will be solved!
3. Never miss Twice!
Accidental interruption of planning is often deeply frustrating and guilty. But think back to the efforts we've made to change ourselves, to be tolerant of ourselves, to put aside this uncomfortable emotion, to face up to mistakes, to find out what's holding us back from developing habits, and to make a new improvement plan for our own interruptions.
When setting up our plan, James Clear suggests that we put the phrase "Never Miss Twice!" into the plan and replace the deadline with a scheduled trip, such as a schedule of daily bookkeeping, instead of saving $10,000 in a month. Day after day practice is more important than anything else, and when we leave ourselves a period of practice on our books, it's like we've agreed with ourselves to be closer to the ideal every day than we were yesterday.
Finally, James Clear reminds us to remember when developing habits that we strive to be better ourselves, not for others, but for ourselves. Today, join us on the journey of organizing our lives with bookkeeping, and through the ideal practice day after day, gradually put down the anxiety and anxiety of life, down-to-earth journey towards economic autonomy, and become a confident, fearless, strong woman.