Mr. Liu Xuan and Mr. Ding Lingxuan spoke live in the Women's Paradise.
Two teachers in their respective fields have rich professional knowledge, life experience and professional experience, this time with a new book "can be their own place, but also with others to get along well: mature adults should have 33 psychological habits", "You do not have to go fast, but must go far: the school did not teach, the supervisor did not speak of the workplace eyebrows", sitting in front of a small screen, Talk slowly to the young people who are new to the workplace, talk about the anxiety and anxiety in the workplace, and how do we take ourselves to find an exit?
"Find what you really like, and you can go far, with the goal of being far away." 」
At 8 p.m. on Tuesday, Mr. Liu and Mr. Ding were talking live at the Women's Paradise.
Two teachers in their respective fields have rich professional knowledge, life experience and professional experience, this time with a new book "can be their own place, but also with others to get along well: mature adults should have 33 psychological habits", "You do not have to go fast, but must go far: the school did not teach, the supervisor did not speak of the workplace eyebrows", sitting in front of a small screen, Talk slowly to the young people who are new to the workplace, talk about the anxiety and anxiety in the workplace, and how do we take ourselves to find an exit?
The two teachers talk about the problems that may be encountered in the workplace and life from the three levels of interpersonal, time management and personal growth.
Praise, to support yourself.
If you can't please everyone, focus on who you care about.
The trade-off between human feelings and work has always been a matter of distress to many people, how to cultivate interpersonal relationships in the workplace?
Ms. Ding believes that we can't please everyone, so we should focus our energy and resources on people who really care about ourselves, and she redefines the "human nature" for this reason: "What is the world of human ity?" Say more good things, say more good things about those who are not there, praise them, praise is needed by people at all levels. (Recommended reading:"Ding Lingyu column" savethe time to complain, spend more effort to "go forward")
In fact, praise the boss is not a slap, as well as think about, one day he may become your noble person, provide more good resources to you. Think of your boss as a resource that can support you, help you reach the level of the workplace you want, and set the stage you want.
Time management is an ancient problem
In the face of their perfectionism, we must know how to set more "overthe" standards.
On the job, do a good job of time management is a very important thing, Ding Lingxuan teacher said, the most basic is not Delay, once you promise others, will be handed over as scheduled, "late delivery" will affect your image in the eyes of others, feel that you are difficult to trust the person.
Mr. Liu Xuan proposed a method for those who have procrastination symptoms: "If you are perfectionist, you must know how to set the standard of "going and getting". (Recommended reading:"This Era, the Answer is for Young People" Interview with Creative Worker Liu Xuan )
Is it good to stay in the same temperature?
Reading and travel are ways to jump out of the stratosphere.
Community networking is a good tool, but know not to be harnessed.
During the live broadcast, Mr. Liu Xuan and Mr. Ding Lingxuan also talked about the problem of "staying in the same temperature" in the community era, affected by the network, it is difficult for us to jump out of the same temperature, so since we can not jump out of the same temperature, so how to let oneself expand their horizons, not trapped in the same temperature?
"Community networks are a good tool, but know not to be harnessed by it, " said Mr. Liu with a laugh. Psychologically, it's almost impossible to find people who are different from our own values, because challenging ourselves is easy to feel uncomfortable.
Mr. Ding later said that reading or traveling is a good way to really expand your horizons and jump out of the community network at the same temperature.
"If you travel, you can spend two weeks in one place, a deep experience, and you will have a new experience in your life. Liu Xuan said.
"The best way to experience a city is long day, " says Mr. Ding. It's a great way to go to study in the morning and backpack in the afternoon. 」
Walk slowly, do what you want, and you'll get to the distance.
At the end, the two teachers gave advice to the freshman in the workplace:
"Everyone put shimacloses to life, if the flowers bloom butterflies come from, if people have wonderful days to arrange themselves." 」
Mr. Ding believes that when you try to live well, you can make an impact and don't need to ask for it. At the same time, she encourages everyone to find what they really like, to do what they love, to go far, and your goal is in the distance.
Mr. Liu Xuan is giving advice from a point of view: "To use empathy to "feel" the state of mind of the communicating object, not just ask What are you thinking?
He also hopes that everyone can learn to observe their emotions, as a basis for communication, and always maintain self-conscious ability, let oneself slow down, think about, this will avoid many preconceptions.
An hour of sharing, the sentence wonderful, two teachers with incisive insights, to respond to the anxiety of the workplace freshman.
If you are worrying about the relationships in the workplace, if you feel that your current job is not where you want to work, don't be afraid, go after it, find a way to live your life, you will be able to take yourself to find a long way to life.