We always look forward to hearing about ourselves in other people, and we are used to constraining and evaluating ourselves with the reactions and visions of others. But before asking someone ," "How do you think I feel?" perhaps you should ask yourself, "How do I feel about me?" Every word, every action, every choice, is a part of building a self-image, in addition to how we see ourselves, but also indirectly affect how others see themselves.
June, you finally got to a foot ready to step out of the campus, another foot ready to enter the real world of the moment, watching many friends around the camp to prepare resumes, practice interviews, but they are not clear enough to go the way forward. You start to feel a little flustered about the future, you turn on the computer to try to write down a few lines of resume, but just in the cut-and-down cycle, you suddenly find that you do not know how to introduce yourself, you even panic, you do not know where they are different from others.
Hey, you're not alone at all, there are so many people like you. And to solve the anxiety, let's start by clarifying our "self-image".
Before you ask others what they think of you, ask you what you think of yourself.
We always look forward to hearing about ourselves in other people, and we are used to constraining and evaluating ourselves with the reactions and visions of others. But before asking someone "how do you think I feel?" perhaps you should ask yourself, "How do I feel about me?" is tied to a psychological concept, Self-Image.
According to the Langdon Bookhouse Dictionary, self-image is defined as "a person's thoughts, concepts, and personal traits", and can also be further defined as "how we see ourselves", from what you see in front of the mirror every morning to how you express your thoughts. (Recommended reading: Why should you care about the workplace image?) The visual effect is nine times the capacity)
As our self-image becomes closer and closer to our ideal softer state, we have a chance to be better ourselves. The South African FET Academy has proposed three elements that make up the image of itself:
- The way a person looks at himself
- The way a person interprets what others think of himself
- What a person wants to be
For example, A considers himself a person who is positive, respectful, and inclusive of dissent, and when he is confronted with criticism, he pulls away the emotional component of criticism and absorbs valuable opinions, so A can keep improving, learning, and thus becoming a person with a rich perspective on things.
Self-image is important not only because it determines how we present ourselves, but also because it is about our values and outlook on life.
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Seven Exercises to Build A True Self-Image
Knowing why self-image is important, we can further think about what kind of self-image we have or want to create, which will also determine the way we choose to work, job, and resume in the future. However, just like the development of personality, the establishment of self-image is not two or three days can be achieved. (Recommended reading: Workplace Interview Code: Be a "storyteller" comparedto your experience)
The foreign website Positive Psychology Program offers seven practices that can effectively build a true self-image, with just a piece of paper and a pen:
- 10 things you like
If you want to dig into your truest self, start with what you like! Write down 10 things or activities you like to explore different possibilities, and of course, if you like more than 10 things, you can continue to write down, and it's great to know more about yourself.
- List 10 skills you currently have
The skills you need to write down are not far away or powerful, as long as they are anything you can and you think valuable skills can be written on. Including skateboarding, playing musical instruments, Chinese words, etc., you will understand your abilities more well through your writing skills.
- List at least 5 things you feel about achievement
Write down things that have a sense of accomplishment, as big as winning a competition, as small as the courage to speak to strangers. Remember that the sense of achievement is not the focus, the point is that you get a sense of accomplishment at the same time, feel their value and hope to become the look.
- List 3 difficulties you've overcome
Difficulties, you do not choose to escape, is to overcome it positively, how courageous thing? In addition to writing down the difficulties themselves, you can write down your difficulties more carefully and remind yourself again of the power you have and what you can do.
- List 5 people who have helped you
Along the way, in addition to the strength and ability we have, we have encountered many people who are not stingy to help, try to write down their names, and the scenes in which they are helped, and try to write down "why they help edified themselves" in addition to telling yourself that they love you. Is it because you're kind? Is it because you're also willing to help others? See the strengths of one's own through others.
- List 5 people you've helped
After thanking those who have helped you, please write down the people you have helped. For what reason did you help them? A cheer, a joke is a kind of help, and through this help writing, you can feel that you are a valuable person, you can give strength to others.
- List 50 things you know about life
The last exercise, which takes the most time, will also allow you to re-examine your current life, how far away you are from your ideal. Do you think the world is peaceful, cruel, gentle, radical? And what characteristics should you have for a good life? To be honest, write it down.
The establishment of self-image, in fact, not only suitable for fresh people, transfer to think, this problem actually exists every day, we say every word, do every action, every choice decided, is a part of the establishment of self-image, in addition to how we see ourselves, but also indirectly affect how others see themselves.
Only when you know what you want to say will others understand what you are saying.
Dear fresh people, in the face of the future you may be afraid, confused, anxious, but also do not forget their own already have the good and strength, you will not be forever confused, and of course, will not be forever. The road ahead does not go, we will not know what it is like, I wish you can fully understand their own, and the strength, gratitude, gratitude after packing, bravely on the road.