Gender observation: from the Song Song love break to see the romantic love imagination: why people always love to see and love?

The biggest news of the day was South Korea's Song Song couple Song Zhongji and Song Hui-joo, who were confirmed by the brokerage firm that they had divorced because of "personality mismatches". Many media and online comments have called it "the last fairy tale bust", "no way to work today" and "no more faith in love". (Extended reading: Song Hui Qiao Song Zhongji confirmed divorce: marriage is courage, to end a relationship is also)

Some people may think that the public vulgar ignorance, love celebrity gossip, others divorce, in the end you fart matter? But in fact, it's a collective sentiment, after all, marriage is never just a Facebook post, an IG honeymoon, but a day-to-day chairice oil salt. From the celebrity story, everyone sees themselves more or less.

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Romantic love imagination: I am not perfect, meet you, only to become a complete person (really?) )

In his book "The Transformation of Intimacy", the sociologist Giddens refers to the concepts of "romantic love" and "confluent love". Romantic love refers to an intimate relationship that is idealized by the object of love. It often begins with "Love at First Sight", when two souls meet and combine to confirm each other as "true love" and end with a "marriage system".

Contemporary romantic love imagination, to meet the modern society of personal shortcomings. I live alone in modern society, the relationship between people is weak, imperfect me, all my life in search of the lost other half. But when I meet you and love, I become a complete person. People's self-identification is not based on who I think I am, but on whether my partner can satisfy what I am missing.

When the emotionally injured Song Hui-Jo, met the young 4-year-old Song Zhongji, the other side gentle and considerate, sincere determination, like "the descendants of the sun", no one side was dwarfed by Jiang Twilight and Liu Shizhen, from then on into the romantic love finale - marriage. As when we were young, we read the end of most fairy tales: the prince and princess, from then on to live a happy life. (Same-field plus:"Single Diary" "The Descendants of the Sun" I want a chess enemy's love)

But it also reflects a kind of true love. True love, which represents everyone in the world, will have a "lost half" and will (or should) join hands with you into an eternal marriage?

Media Construction: Song Song CP to Song Song Husband and Wife, Difficult to Reflect the Reality of the Network and mainstream media

In addition, a large part of our imagination of romantic love is also related to media construction. When Song opened up about his romance in 2017, he wrote in an open letter:

"During the filming of Descendants of the Sun, I met a precious friend who became my lover. In early 2017, we decided to spend the rest of the day together. In order to start a difficult future for us together, Song Hui-Jo and I decided to get married on the last day of October. 」

However, speaking on a community website never represents everything in real life. In the age of community, people tend to show their bright side in the personal media, hiding their relatively unhappy real lives, as Sherry Turkle, an American psychologist, once pointed out in Together Together.

This is not out of selfishness or ostentatiousness, but by spreading positive messages, often gaining more social support and making people inclined to do so.

In addition to personal community sites, mainstream media reports also describe their relationship sylune as "fairy tales" and "love of the century". The so-called fairy tale, meaning will not happen in real life, its dream and not broken, consolidate the "romantic love" of the wedding imagination. When the media reported that Song Zhongji called his wife "dear", 30 people witnessed the marriage proposal, the Spanish romantic honeymoon, as an audience, somewhat also from such reports, to consolidate the celebrity love "also looking for true love" imagination. (Extended reading:"Relationship Diary" Song Hui-Jo o and Song Zhongji, because it is you, I want to spend the rest of my life)

But the marriage was run, never reported in the two-minute film. It's not a Facebook post. Marriage is chairice oil salt. It's a day and night. It's offline life outside of IG, Facebook and mass media. Even if the marriage changes later, it does not mean that the intimacy they have experienced will be completely wiped out. (Extended reading:Song Hui-Jo o and Song Zhongji, if we really love, fairy tales will not be broken)

Looking back, do we really be so cheesy when we like to see gossip?

But do we really represent us being stupid and vulnerable to the media? In fact, as an audience, your sadness, your confusion, your uncertainty about the future, are true. We are still dynamic.

When the media re-create celebrity marriage, invisibly consolidate the public's imagination of "romantic love" and "marriage fairy tale". And the gossip-loving public, the fantasy of celebrity stories, is it really so overwhelming? Fiske, a British cultural researcher, believes that the popular love of film culture, as a "fantasy", provides the escape of the emotions and desires of the people. Also through reading and analysis of these popular texts, we produce their own interpretation, the construction of a more eager pursuit of life, pull out new possibilities.

In an article analyzing the death of a celebrity, End Media analyzed the phenomenon of tributes to the Internet after the death of British singer David Bowie, calling it a "cyber memorial":

Such sentiments are so pervasive, and they accurately describe the zeitgeist: the faster the network, the more we fear loss, but through the internet, we regain our ability to mourn the old. Mourning on the internet is not necessarily collective melancholy, nor necessarily cheap emotional expression, a thousand mourning netizens, there are a thousand emotional forms.

In the age of social media, when we mourn the loss of celebrity feelings, it is also a way for us to mourn the loss of personal love. When we get a glimpse of the different cutpoints of marriage from the reports, we also recognize that celebrity marriage is not "perfect" but just like you and me. There is joy and anger, there is sorrow and pain. The fantasy, we get a respite from escaping reality, the reality, we also recognize that we are all the same.

In these articles, we collectively grieve and rejoice, debate, or comfort each other. This may also be one of the media responsibilities of the era: to provide public discussion areas and to offer relief.