"Who says sex is separated, there is no love?" Look at seasickness from psychology

We went to bed. Very naturally, from holding hands to kissing, passion follows from cinema to Motel. We hugged each other, in each other's ears, with the word baby instead of the title, anyway, we have never called each other's real name. (Ex-Brief:"Single Diary" flirting is comfortable, because you don't have to be alone in love)

This is the first time I have met him. The bodies of the two men fit far more closely than you might think. Afterwards, we lay in bed and chatted. He was gentle, hugging me from behind and leaning his head on my shoulder. "We're a couple of lovers. I can't help thinking.

"Well, are we like a couple?" I asked.

He took it all, without answering. Although I couldn't see his expression, I could see that he didn't like the question from the moment he was stiff in his arm.

I don't know who turned the conversation, just remember that later we were not marginal, talking about other trivia.

I'll go to bed with him later. And I don't know what I'm longing for - his body, or him?

We fell in love in bed. After he got out of bed, his love was gone, and my love seemed to continue.

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Psychology: After a one-night stand, why did you get seasick?

Clinical psychologist Suzanne Lachmann offers some analysis of women's seasickness after a one-night stand.

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"When a girl has a crush on a boy, she may be willing to sleep with him because she sees this as the beginning of a relationship between the two. The girl remembers what the boy had said to her before going to bed, so she expected the relationship to heat up after a one-night stand. 」
- Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D.

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"When a woman is "too fast" to have sex with a man - "too fast" means that she is not ready for emotions and emotions - she may feel vulnerable because the man doesn't contact her immediately afterwards. 」
- Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D.

"Relationships after first sex are usually not something you can count on. She said the loss of the seasick was due to inconsistent expectations of the relationship.

Therefore, to avoid the after-the-fact generation of this negative emotions, the next time and others go to bed, remember to remind yourself, to clarify the mind, do a good job of psychological preparation. (Same-field plus: seasickness and bedsickness: after a short romance, how to get ashore quickly?) ) )

The most important thing is to confirm each other's intentions, know that your needs and expectations for this relationship are the same, and understand and respect each other.

In the word "sex", is love exist?

Back to the story of the beginning of the text. Am I practicing what I call "sexual separation"? I'm not sure either. I hugged, kissed, had sex with him, and were immersed in the heat and lust of each other's bodies, and after getting out of bed, we were like strangers, as if we couldn't even be friends.

"Let's say yes, we only love in bed. 」

This was our initial consensus. When that feeling of love, slowly extended to the back of the bed, outside the room, I found that I not only love his body, but also love him this person. Sex is separate from me, seemingly and unworkable. Specifically, we only love sex, but mentally, I am not without love for him.

"Sex is your heart, plus your life." 」
- Zhang Yiguang, "History of Sexual Meaning"

"The road to a woman's heart is the vagina. 」
- Zhang Ailing, "Color Ring"

We haven't been in touch for a long time. I often think of these two words when I think of him only occasionally.

That's the story. As a story, it doesn't matter what it is.

Finally, as clinical psychologist Suzanne Lachmann points out, everyone's state of emotional relationships or sex is different. Therefore, there is no standard answer to whether "sex" can be "separated".

If you're also in a sexual relationship, seasick, and if you don't know what you like, the other person's body or his own, perhaps the first step you should do is try to understand yourself first. When you put yourself in place, you have a better chance of finding the right relationship pattern for you.