NETFLIX TALK #MeToo CURRENT SITUATION: WHEN SOMEONE SAYS TO ME, "YOU'RE SUCH A WIFE"

Text: Womany Jiaqi

In 2017, after the Harvey Weinstein incident, the #MeToo movement exploded rapidly, and many people used hashtags such as "#MeToo" and "#TimesUp" on the Internet to talk about the sexual harassment and assault they had encountered. The movement has passed its second anniversary, and many films, televisions, and literary works on this topic have gradually appeared.

American comedian Whitney Cummings in the talk show Can I Touch It?, in a short one-hour accurate and funny portrayal of the current situation of #MeToo movement: "Why should men be overwhelmed by this? Can you touch it, is it difficult?"

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#"Can I touch you?" Of course not

In the opening remarks, Whitney said that last year, if someone hadn't paid attention to current events for a while, they might have found that they had missed something. "All of a sudden, everybody's talking about sexual harassment, right? A lot of my male friends finally feel something is wrong with this time, and they start complaining. Do you have any male friends who have become overwhelmed in the office?"

And suddenly they said, what? I can't hug a female colleague in the company right now?

"You can't do it in the first place." Nobody wants to meet you in the office at nine o'clock in the morning, right next to the coffee machine. It's really weird.

Whitney said, "But I know of course you want to touch women. The woman is super cute. It's overwhelming. I can relate to your feelings. Because sometimes, I see service dogs wearing service vests at the airport, and they say 'dogs are on duty, please do not touch them', and I am very entangled. Because I want to pet the dog." Obviously, you see, it's just a dog. Dogs just love to be touched by humans. The cute ass is dangling there, and it's obvious that I'm begging you to pat it!

"I can see his asshole, and who's to say it doesn't want to be touched?"

But what about me? I've never photographed those dogs. Why? Because of that vest. You don't respect the dog, so you have to respect the vest, right? He wrote that the dog was busy. That made me think, is this the only way to do it in the workplace? Does a woman have to wear a vest at work, writing, "We are working hard, please don't touch us?"

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#"You're such a wife" uh

I also have some male colleagues who try hard not to get themselves into trouble, but instead get more obscene. For example, some people praised a female colleague for being "wife material" and almost went to court.

He felt inexplicable. My colleague complained, come on, it's not even about sex.

Are you sure? "Being a wife" doesn't mean that I can sleep with you for free forever, and then you have to sign a contract with me, and if you want to leave, you have to hire a lawyer to solve it. You'd better think it through.

"It's been so long, how can you possibly remember what happened?" There is also a voice that is like this. Maybe some people don't understand that what happened in childhood, when you grow up, often takes a long time before you know what happened to you.

"That's what I am." Whitney said.

"When I was 19 years old, I was supposed to be acting in a TV series. The director, who is about 65 years old, invited me to lunch at his trailer on the first day. I know what you're thinking: 'Why are you running to his trailer!' 」

Because I was only 19 years old. No one told me it was dangerous. There's a lot I don't know. At the time, I thought that clear bra straps were really transparent. I also thought the woman who lived with my aunt was her roommate. There are a lot of things that you don't know yet. Don't blame me.

Then I got to the trailer and he suddenly pounced. I didn't even know what was going on, I thought he was too old and he fell. So I went backwards, startled, and cried out, "Oh my God, are you okay?? Are you falling!! Are you going to pass out??"

The good news, of course, is that one of the things I found for me when you're in this situation is to pretend he's in some kind of crisis and to be pitiful. Like, "Oh my God, did you have a stroke? Would you like to call an ambulance?"

Of course, this is just her way.

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#"Women harass men, too?" And then what?

Some people will come to her and complain, "Please, you think it's only men who harass women? Some women harass men."

Whitney said, "Nonsense. Of course we do. You think that's all you get from those harassing texts?"

"We can see that all the text messages that those girls were going to send to you were stopped from her."

"We know everything. It was I who told them, please, you can't say that you want to kidnap his mother, please delete it. He hasn't responded to your texts for five days."

"You just don't know that we know. Of course, women harass men."

After all, no one cared what we thought for thousands of years, until these two years when someone suddenly asked, "Hey, what do you guys think?" So we're still scared. Oh my God, I wasn't prepared at all. Can you give us a minute to think about it?

Whitney also pointed out that in recent years, when experiencing the #MeToo movement, the line between "empowerment" and "entitlement" has sometimes become difficult for women. In many cases, you are not so sure whether the things that belong to you are the "new rights" that you have won from, and you are not sure whether some words will become more difficult to say in the context.

For example: "Liberation? Aside from breastfeeding, do you have to wait until a few months later?" "Bitches and hookers, can we still call each other that?" It's as if in the context of #MeToo, the narrative seems to have no place and becomes more singular. (Read more: Bloody gets poked!) Netflix talk show talks about misanthropic old girl: I'm 35 years old, please don't sympathize with me)

"Sex Robot Situational Questions"

In the midst of so many contemporary gender problems, Whitney asks the question, "So, with sex robots, can we solve the problem?"

"I don't understand why people hate robots so much, but I don't think it can make women better. Think about it, what if women started having their own replicating robots? You can use them and live a safer life. When you want to go to the parking lot in the middle of the night to pick up the car, you can send the robot over first and hide behind yourself. Like a doppelganger, it's like a penguin will push other penguins off a cliff. "Oh no, look, they got her. I thought I should go, uh, take an Uber.'" That's probably it."

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Or a lot of gray area reports, like two people going to bed, the next day the girl feels weird, but the guy doesn't understand what's going on. He thought she was interested.

"Hey, boys, you may not know that, but sometimes, we sleep with you before we're ready because we feel guilty. It seems like it's a sin not sleeping with you. But we have to suppress the feeling that we feel weird." (Read more: When You Want And She Doesn't Want to Giving: A Psychological Study on Sex and Love)

"If there's a sex robot, maybe we can make out for twenty minutes and say, sorry, but I can't do it right now, but there's something in the room next to me that you're going to love (laughs)."

In fact, Whitney actually went to the robot factory and ordered a robot that was very similar to hers.

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"I introduced the robot to my fiancé. I think he'll like it, but the result? He said, 'Oh my god, I hate this thing, it's horrible, staring at me all day.'" And I said, oh, is it scary to be stared at all day? Then you now understand what it's like to be a woman."

That's what it's like to be stared at all day in the workplace and suddenly embraced. Got it?

"Can robots replace us? My friends, who have full-time jobs and do chores, complain that they need a stand-in."

"However, when I set her up, I also found that I often had a lot of problems with my words. For example, I apologize too often and force myself too much to say things I don't like. So I decided to set her up to be able to say what I normally wanted to say but didn't dare to say."

For example, "No, I don't want to hear what you dreamed about last night." "No, I don't want to be your bridesmaid."

I've found that women have a deep-seated sense of shame and are afraid to admit that they want or don't want anything. But she doesn't seem to have that kind of problem. See what else she has to say:

"I deserve a raise."

There are also times when I quarrel with my fiancé. "I'm sorry, I was wrong." It's absolutely impossible to get out of my mouth.

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At the end of the talk show, Whitney used mocking language and robot metaphors to talk about what happened to women. In fact, none of us are so lucky to have a "sex robot" that can take our place, endure unwanted encounters, and say things we dare not say. Most of the time, we're that robot.

This talk show of talking about #MeToo also points out that there are many, many situations, which are the real life we still need to face after being stunned, scared, and ridiculed. This may also be the difficulty of sports.

When many people ask, how will #MeToo end after it has lasted for two years and bloomed everywhere? What's next for it?

But we can also ask rhetorically, why is there an end? Is it possible that it will never end? Because, that's life. We don't need to be too pessimistic or optimistic, because when gender issues are embedded in our lives, there will be no end to it. We can only try to feel and live with it.