Domestic violence is a matter of relevance but thorny issue. "There is no single way to solve all domestic violence incidents, because each case is so different. Aleid van den Brink is a global women's asylum network worker who has devoted her life to fighting domestic violence and you can see in her what is gentle and determined.
When I first met Aleid van den Brink, she came in a gray- and unsophisticated manner, looking calm and elegant, giving a sense of kindness and peace of mind.
Looking into her blue-grey eyes, not sharp, only stable. So I can imagine how gently and determined lying on this issue as a worker at the Global Women's Asylum Network.
Aleid van den Brink has been working to combat "domestic violence" and protect the rights of women, children and men. She has been involved in the Global Women's Asylum Network since 2008 and is now a director of the Global Resettlement Network (GNWS) Foundation in The Hague.
Physical, mental, or financial harassment, control, threats, or other unlawful abuse among family members.
2008 to the present, for ten years. It was a long time, and she had seen too many heartbreaking cases rather than thinking about any one. "I see a lot of victims trying to recover. After a few seconds of silence, Aleid van den Brink spits out the words faintly, and from her tone and tone, she can feel as if she is trying to lift her weight.
Healing, has always been a long road, and the pit scars, difficult to move forward.
Ten years, enough to meet thousands of cases. But in each case, the victim's path to recovery may be much longer than a decade. Perhaps that's why Aleid van den Brink is reluctant to mention a particular case, after all, the pain cannot be quantified.
Any story has its value.
Domestic violence occurs all over the world, whether in the East or the West or to the extent of development. What is the cause behind domestic violence? "It's a simple question, but the answer is very difficult. Aleid van den Brink moves his body forward, his hands folding, and he makes a careful thought.
Thinking for a while, she finally opened her mouth. "Not all the causes of domestic violence are the same. As mentioned earlier, Aleid van den Brink argues that no case can be taken as a general ization. "The solution is so. There is no single way to solve all domestic violence incidents, because each case is so different. 」
Gender-based violence can lead to gender inequality
Despite this, Aleid van den Brink is a little more analytical. "All along, men have had more power than women. 」
She cites wage inequality as an example. We nodded and said that Taiwan has a situation like this.
According to a survey by Taiwan's Ministry of Labour, in 2017, the average hourly wage for women was only 271 yuan for men, compared with 315 yuan for men, and the gender pay gap was 14%, meaning that women need edges 52 days more than men to achieve the same annual salary as men.
"When men are out for work and financially able, and women stay at home, the relationship can change subtly. Aleid van den Brink wants to talk about the power behind gender-based violence.
Let's try to imagine this situation - as a housewife today, when your financial support depends on one-sided care, if your husband is violent, will you choose to leave? It's a lot harder to practice than it is to say. Even if you choose to leave your husband, you may lose your financial resources and leave the job market for a long time, and it's not easy to find a job again.
Wage inequality between men and women has gradually improved over the past two decades, "but not enough." Aleid van den Brink shook his head and "became more equal, but not entirely equal." 」
Orange House: A shelter with temperature
Family is the nearest place to us. It can be the most warm, can also be very hurtful.
Domestic violence is therefore a matter of relevance and thorny issue, and Aleid van den Brink has never given up its understanding and care for it.
"In 2018, I'm stepping down as Ceo of Blijf Groep," Aleid van den Brink pauses, tilts his body a little forward, seemingly trying to emphasize, "But my concern and support for victims of domestic violence has not diminished." 」
The Orange House,founded by Blijf Groep, is a shelter dedicated to shelter for women who are being abused, and its design is special. Most shelters, usually closed, sometimes give a sense of suffocation in isolation, while orange houses offer open spaces to provide shelter and care in a visible but safe environment.
Orange is the national color of the Netherlands, with the meaning of royalty. At Orange House, it actually has another meaning.
"If green means the situation is safe, red means the situation is serious, the orange is meant to be "yet to come". As explained carefully, Aleid van den Brink drew a line in the air, and compared it to the two ends.
"It's still there" sounds good, but it's also poignant. The good news is that everything is not too late, the victim still has a chance to see the day again; sadly, there are still people can not wait until the rain in time - may be a second, more than one beating;
"We need to do more."
"We need to do more. 」
- Aleid van den Brink
She was silent for a while, thinking. We didn't disturb her, the air was quiet.
Build a secure network to fight violence
Aleid van den Brink has been involved in the Global Women's Asylum Network since 2008, much like the spirit of this 4WCWS (Fourth World Conference on Women's Asylum Placement): sharing experiences and speaking out collectively.
"Building a network can bring us excitement and inspiration. After thinking about it, Aleid van den Brink continued, "Let us know that these sexual violence is not just happening in our own country, but a global issue." 」
The power of speech is far greater than we think. As more people focus on one thing, its visibility increases and there is a better chance of being addressed.
A lot of things we can learn and inspire each other.
"We can learn a lot of things together and inspire each other. 」
- Aleid van den Brink
You need to know that you are doing the right thing, and you are not alone.
As Aleid van den Brink said at first, every story has its value. In the face of gender inequality or domestic violence, we need to work together to support each other and accompany our peers.
"In order to create a better tomorrow, I believe in the network and knowledge sharing. Finally, Aleid van den Brink says so.
Show true unity! Sharing with others!
At the end of the interview, it's video recording time. Aleid van den Brink says he doesn't speak English very well, but for every question he answers, even looking up the dictionary, for fear that he doesn't express what he wants to convey clearly.
Talk to Aleid van den Brink, much like talking to a mentor, who has a rich life experience and knowledge, waiting for you to ask questions. Kind and kind, but also firm and very.