"Marriage Story," directed by Noah Baumbach and starring Adam Driver and Scarlett Johansson, tells the story of a real-life marriage after removing pink glasses. And you, have you the courage to face it?
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Director Noah Baumbach's new book, Marriage Story, tells the story of how a couple can go from admiring each other, marrying in love, to finally falling apart, and then exposing the unabashed ugliness and mutual injury in divorce negotiations.
At the beginning of the film, husband Charlie (Adam Driver) and wife Nicole (Scarlett Johanson) describe each other's strengths, laying out why they fell in love with each other, each other's most fascinating places, and how they could complement each other when they lived together support each other. However, with all the words in his words, the two men have sat in front of the marriage counselor and hated each other. Next, they'll go to the law firm, then the court. The rift between the relationship is expanding, yesterday's beautiful as smoke, no longer see.
"Marriage Story" not only talks about the true face of marriage, but also describes two people who desire love and family, how to face their own feelings, needs and desires. Looking back on the film, but also reflect together, in marriage, what makes love quietly spoil?
To tell you the truth, all the problems started. But I followed him because it felt so good. Because I'm alive.
Nicole recalls the moment when she first met Charlie, who felt like everything was good because she was in a frenzy, and that you would start doing things you wouldn't have done in the past, like everything to match. By the time one day you feel wrong, you've lost too much of yourself. But at the same time, as she admits, we probably found out the problem in the first place. But dear, then you, have the courage to see it?
You're not happy in L.A. or anywhere, you'll find a man who's the opposite of me, better than me, and then rebel against him in a few years. Because you have your own voice, but you don't want to. You just want to complain that you have no voice.
The film's husband and wife have an obvious problem, is the poor communication between each other. And behind this, it may be that they don't want to listen to each other. Because of marriage, to the family, you will sacrifice, and you may feel aggrieved by it. However, when everyone thinks only about themselves, you are reduced to mutual hatred and difficult to have real dialogue. You can have emotions, which is normal, but don't let emotions dominate your behavior and make decisions.
I thought having kids, and that's what we really do. It's also my real product. But the good times are not long, the children already have their own life, they leave your body, they set foot on the road away from home. I don't belong to myself.
If you find something wrong before you get married, you think you'll find it when you get married, and if you get married, you may think you'll have a baby. And "Marriage Story" reminds us that if the problem exists, no matter how far you go, you will one day come back to face it.
Nicole and Charlie have a bad marriage, and at the end of the debate, they find themselves the kind of person they hate the most. Selfish, sharp and relentless. At this moment, the less you want to hurt each other, the more you seem to have lost control of what you do. So, marriage like a mirror, let us see their never satisfied with the piece, you find yourself originally very small, there are many shortcomings. And take this opportunity to look in the mirror, will you be the one you want to spend the rest of your life together?
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Although modern people want their father to change, we basically accept that even if they make mistakes, we still love him. But we can't accept that mothers make the same mistake.
In the film into the child custody debate, also mentioned the social view of fatherand and mother's position difference. It shows that we basically expect mothers to be omnipotent, to be completely sacrificed, and to be flawless and without negative emotions. However, the mother is also a person, she will also be tired, will also want to drink, there will be emotional out of control, will also make mistakes. The same is true of fathers. No one born to be the "Virgin", a family, should understand and learn together.
I know him two seconds to fall in love with him, even if love him has no meaning, I will still love him in this life.
Two people to the end, know that a lot of injuries have been caused, there is irreversible, each other can no longer be intact. You meet someone, you fall in love with him, and you decide to get married. But you may find that having love doesn't mean you're fit to spend the rest of your life. It's just that it's probably not the saddest. You face the fact that you score, you have to face your own shortcomings, you have to bear your heartbreak. Then, regroup your life and stand a little farther, and you know that with this distance, it may be the best thing for you in the end. At least, you won't hate yourself any more, and you'll finally be able to take good care of each other's love.
In the film, with no merciless angle, depicts the marriage of truth and human nature. However, as Charlie once said to Nicole, we will find a solution because our goals are the same. After watching this film, you may still not be able to give a standard answer to marriage, however, we will continue to hope for happiness, and courage to face every choice.