Is death a taboo subject in your family? In fact, if we can talk about it in a timely manner and be with each other, we can get out of the pain more healthily. And this is a long way for adults and children to learn together.
Life has the beginning and the end, but we are often caught off guard, in the face of the loss of the present, a long time can not be relieved. Sometimes we also think, if you can learn to face the loss of life earlier.
How do you talk about death with your child?
We want to teach our children to cherish possession, emotional expression, and gratitude, but in the last lesson, we also practice saying goodbye. When we meet, we know that one day we will face separation, and this does not teach you to be afraid to love, but that we can all face each relationship more maturely.
In this process, parents can guide their children to think about the meaning of life, and this lesson is very long, adults and children have to learn slowly together. To give you five steps to begin the journey of understanding relationships and life:
First, replace neglect with companionship
The departure of a loved one may be a strange emotion for the child, even difficult to understand. They might even think, did I do something wrong, so he's leaving me? And in many traditional families, the habit of not talking about death makes children feel lonely.
In such times, people around them can accompany, understand emotions, so that they feel that they have been taken, re-establish a sense of security. This is an important first step in healing.
Second, the last love of education
After facing a major change in life, perhaps we will receive a lot of messages that you have to be more cheered up. So we may quietly put away tears, do not let ourselves easily in front of others to collapse. However, pent-up emotions do not disappear for no reason, but may be transformed into unhealthy forms to accompany you.
If you don't have a chance in the past, take this opportunity to give your children an emotional education lesson! Your eyes, you will become more understanding of the same person.
Practice accepting the facts
Losing a loved one or loved one we once knew, like a corner missing in life, we'll wait for the day when we can "get better." Yet in the face of losing a better approach is to accept that this has already happened.
We do not have to worry, can slowly, can also depend on the child's physical and mental state to make a moderate adjustment. And eventually we have to be able to understand the facts and really grow up together.
Fourth, jointly restart life
When we're sad, we may be tempted to think: Do I have to do something to get myself out of the gloom? At the same time, however, we forget that we are in a fragile state, trying to repair life, and may have limited capacity.
Lead the children to think, what do you want to do most in front of you? Even if it is only a small wish, accompany him to complete. In the process, you will slowly establish a life pattern that will be lost to him or her, and know that we can live well together.
V. Learn to cherish gratitude
Finally, let's not forget to thank you. After a loved one or loved one leaves, we may have some doubts, grievances, or guilt, and these complex emotions are stuck there, but because the person will never come back, your emotions will not be answered. What else can we do at this point?
Tell the child, in the face of this parting, we can be good to thank each other, come to your life. Through such rituals, we will let go of our inner uneasiness and feel blessed by more love.
The process of walking through this path with your child is a healing journey that belongs to the whole family. Maybe we'll all have a lot of fear at first, but we can start to choose healthier ways than to avoid talking and growing up. We are not perfect people, and we do not necessarily know the best way to face death. However, because it is long and difficult, it is more necessary to accompany each other.