Japanese actor Takuya Kimura and his wife Shizuka Kudo have been married for more than 20 years, how to maintain their marriage? And how to educate children?

Text: Womany Phoebe

It's easy to fall in love, but it's hard to start a family, and everyone understands that. But how difficult is it to get married and learn to become a parent? Japanese actor Takuya Kimura married actress Shizuka Kudo at the age of 28 and gave birth to two daughters. Everyone wants to hear the marriage story of a handsome man and a beautiful woman, but in the past 20 years of marriage, Takuya Kimura has rarely mentioned his family life publicly.

You know they're good, but they belong to the ups and downs of the relationship, and they only leave each other behind.

However, recently, Takuya Kimura rarely shared on the show, a small story of quarreling with his daughter. It makes people understand that the original male god such as Takuya Kimura usually fascinates everyone outside, but when he returns home, he also has a day of worrying about education. (Recommended reading: "The Only Way to Become a Father" Xiu Jiekai: I'm a father, isn't it strange if I can't wrap diapers?) ）

I had a cold war with my daughter for a month, and I refused to be a strict father from now on

A few days ago, Takuya Kimura was interviewed by the show, and admitted that he thought that "a strict father is not good", and gave an example of having a cold war with his daughter for a month over trivial things.

Recalling the reasons for the Cold War, Takuya Kimura said, "My wife was using the faucet to clean things up in the kitchen while my daughter was writing her homework. There may be some droplets of water splashing out and accidentally spraying my daughter, and my daughter asks, "Did you do it on purpose?" The wife responded, "No one would do such a thing on purpose!" , and then the daughter replied, "It's not intentional, the water droplets won't splash like this, okay!" 」

Perhaps dissatisfied with the tone of his daughter's reply, or perhaps angry that he was disturbed, Takuya Kimura got up immediately, deliberately poured the whole glass of water into the sink to let the water droplets splash, and said, "See, this is called deliberate!" Later, the daughter ran away in tears, and the two fell into a cold war for a month after that, without saying a word.


Photo: Mitsuki Kimura Weibo

Speaking of which, Takuya Kimura went on to share that he has been practicing kendo since he was a child, and he is also used to being treated strictly. But after becoming a parent, he realized that applying the rigorous spirit of samurai kendo to himself and his children did not work. Strictness does not help communication, nor does it help the relationship between family members. He slowly adjusted his mentality, and gradually found a way to get along with his children - he would rather be friends with his daughter than be a father who does not smile.

And about being friends with children, women fans have been in the past in "Believe in Your Children! Five Happy Communication Techniques for Being Good Friends with Your Child share five tips:

  • Let the child trust his parents from the heart
  • No intimidation, intimidation, intimidation, intimidation.
  • Listen to your child.
  • Moderately open one eye and close one eye.
  • Let the children do it themselves and experience it.

If you also want to establish a friend-like intimacy with your child, you may want to try the above methods, and you may be able to experience the mentality of Takuya Kimura who would rather be a friend than a strict father!

Who else will I marry but her?

Although the two daughters are approaching the age of 20, Takuya Kimura is still learning on the way to becoming a father. However, to be a "guardian lover", he is very good at it. (Recommended reading: Beautiful Man|We love Takahashi's life, because he played the flaws of an ideal man)

In 2000 AD, after he announced his marriage at the concert without warning, the entertainment industry fell into a burst of surprise. Then the reporter asked, are you going to marry actress Shizuka Kudo? He asked rhetorically: Who else but her?

He didn't want anyone but her. Except for her, he never had the idea of joining hands with anyone else.

It's just that after that "confession" to fans, he never mentioned their love story again, firmly protected his wife, and guarded that privacy boundary. Outside the line, I am still everyone's male god and idol. Within the line, I have my life, my lover, children, please allow me to keep my privacy.

According to A Day magazine, in the more than 20 years of marriage, Takuya Kimura has spoken publicly about family and married life only four times. One was to announce the good news at the concert, and the other was to respond to questions from reporters. The third time was in the show "Thirteen Invitations", when asked by the host about his understanding of love, he said, "I am not the first, the other party is the first to consider, this is love, when you are in love, you may still feel that you are the first, but after sublimation to love, the highest priority is not yourself."

He didn't say it, but we all understand that the protagonist who is loved is Shizuka Kudo.

And the fourth time, in April this year, on Shizuka Kudo's 50th birthday, Takuya Kimura uploaded a photo of the two when they were young for the first time, and wrote the sentence "Happy Birthday!!" Congratulations to the wife. In the photo, the two are smiling happily, although they only have a short word of blessing, but they can still see his protection and love for his wife.


Image: Takuya Kimura Weibo

From the love of two people to a family of four, Takuya Kimura has always been low-key and caring, his love is very plain, and he doesn't declare it to everyone, as long as he cherishes each other. His education is also very warm, not to be a strict father with a sense of distance, but to be a father who can share joys, sorrows, and sorrows. He tries his best to protect those who are valued, and is willing to do as much as he can to protect his family members who are treasures in his eyes.

Takuya Kimura is certainly handsome, but what has made him popular in the entertainment industry for most of his life is not only that face, but also the charm of always treating people warmly and being willing to change for love.