In a country in Taichung, there was a recent incident of school bullying by teachers insulting students, and we also talkabouted about the negative effects of bullying and how do we recover from trauma?
On June 29th, a school bullying incident in a taichung school in which teachers insulted students was accused by nine students that the head teacher had long treated his classmates with verbal humiliation and physical violence.
According to the Associated Press, the tutor served as class guide for three years, publicly exposed the identity of low-income students, said to the class, "a certain student does not have to pay money, you know?" Their families are very vulnerable, and in the name of financial support, give low-income children yellowed tampons, acid oil rice, wearing the physiological pants.
The child had asked the tutor if he could provide it in private if he wanted to provide it, but the teacher called it back on the grounds that "self-esteem is not important", and the insults caused the child's severe internal trauma and the doctor's diagnosis of depression. Another student also said that tutors would divide their grades by asking high-achieving students not to come into contact with low-achieving students in order to isolate underperforming children.
According to the Public View News , the students in the class lived in the shadow of verbal intimidation of their teachers for three years , and were threatened with " if they dare to complain , there will be a way to get you " , causing the students to cry until they graduated . In the face of the allegations, the school responded that the current law can not allow teachers to stop teaching immediately, so will be watching the class counseling and other ways to investigate;
Let's go back to our childhood.
In our memory, is there such a moment: good results, can pick their favorite position, low-achieving people to sit together, each segment of the examination, is like an open meeting;
Even though you're not a bully/victim, we always feel that these threats are familiar to the bullying scene, and that fear is embedded in everyone's growth.
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Campus bullying is not only between classmates, but also includes teachers to students
Campus bullying not only stops between peers, but also includes teachers to students, not in a small number: in March 2020, a teacher in a country in Taichung, on the grounds of poor grades, took students to no-man's classroom steamed with water pipes, bullying for up to a year;
Events like these occur between teachers and students, often because of the power of unequal, whether the scope of reasonable discipline and other factors, make the event more difficult and complex.
In May this year, the Ministry of Education discussed the definition of campus bullying at a consultation meeting on the draft revision of the school bullying guidelines. In the past, the guidelines only defined violence between students, bullying as bullying, but now want to increase the scope of application, including "teachers, staff, workers" in words, words, pictures, body movements and other ways, directly or indirectly to students to carry out derogatory, exclusion and other acts, is bullying.
As soon as this message came out, many people said that the teacher's rights and interests were not protected, and that the campus may also be "student-to-teacher" bullying. Indeed, bullying may occur in different relationships, roles, inappropriate teachers should be eliminated, and good teachers should be protected, but further thinking, we should pay special attention to whether the education system is sufficiently perfect, prevent bullying from happening again at the same time, but also to undertake the victims of bullying on each campus, not to accompany them for life.
The damage caused by campus bullying is long-term.
Bullying will be good, but the inner damage, even if grow into adults, will still exist. In the human-based education notes, teachers will also bully students? Will, and more serious than you think of under the article, many readers message that when they were a child, they have been verbally humiliated by the teacher, violent treatment, and can let the child remember the deepest, most painful, is the teacher in public criticism, abuse, or after being bullied return, the school teacher did not lend a helping hand.
For children, the peer's eyes or silent ness in seeking help are isolated and crowded, implying that the child is a different kind of person, worthless. Psychologist Kimberly Key has explained the harm serun from bullying:
"The sense of belonging is of great importance to human existence. We are social animals and need to rely on each other to survive. The warning of "isolation means death" is closely linked to the nerves of the brain, forcing people to constantly seek belonging in order to survive. 」
"If young people are on campus, trapped in a certain situation, but cannot be understood, assisted, and can't find a way to solve it, they will suffer tremendous internal stress, resulting in severe physical and mental trauma, and many traumas may not occur until a few years after the incident." 」
Victims of bullying may be alienated from the population, self-harm, difficult to eat, difficult to make decisions, and general distrust of people.
If you've been bullied, how can you repair the wounds?
If you see here, feeling angry, anxious, thinking of past experiences of bullying, we hope you, start ingons. Based on the advice of psychotherapist Kimberly Key and the experience of Maria Nhambu, an African writer who bullied her childhood, we put together four steps:
- Be satisfied with your feelings about being affected, and if you like it, you can share it with your trusted friends
- Be gentle and friendly to yourself, hold yourself, say to yourself, "You're great" and "You're a person worth being loved. "
- Live with all your heart in the present. Take control of your life today, make a decision that will make you happy, like your favorite clothes, go to a travel point you'd love to go to
- Find activities that give you confidence: dancing, singing, growing flowers, and so on, and finding your passion for life and the link to happiness.
Finally, you can share these practices to more people, and when you have the power to do so, listen to the stories of other under-predators and accompany them through the difficult times. In the face of campus bullying, we should not be silent people.