Interview writer Left Light, after becoming a sufferer of depression, writes about her own experiences, and she hopes that people who work as hard as she does to fight depression don't feel lonely on the road.
In a pen interview across the Taiwan Strait, we gained a better understanding of depression through the answer of the author of "I'm Fighting Depression in a Mental Hospital: We're Not Thinking Too Much, We're Just Sick, The Hospital Diary of a Smiling Depression Sufferer."
And one person understands you; there is a book that understands you - you are not alone.
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The so-called "normal person" is a person who does not take medicine, and the book mentions the fact that you are "unusual" after discharge from the hospital and when you take the medicine
again. What is the relationship between "taking medicine" and "I"?
The link between drugs and illness is as self-evident as the relationship between pain and tears. After my illness, my outlook on life became quite narrow, used to "life" embedded in the corner of the existing life.
Let's say - this person said goodbye to me, that means never see it in a lifetime;
I am like playing an ancient early break-in game, whenever embarking on a new level, the next order fell, "life" like a positive arrow, always remind me - I have no room to look back.
From the moment I swallowed the first anti-suppression drug, the "whisper" sound of peeling off aluminum foil, the "grunt" sound of the drug rolling over my throat, and even the "cracking" sound that I thought it was slowly dissolving in my body, reminded me that I was sick, I was a patient, I was a depressed patient.
People have the ability to self-paralysis when faced with situations they do not want to face. I've heard a saying that when your body is in major trauma, your brain automatically turns on a momentary shielding memory function to protect you, and it temporarily "takes the opportunity" to stop working in case your body and mind can't take too much of a hit.
When I was a child, I had a pretty tragic car accident, a lot of glasses fragments into the lower eyelids, and poked out of the upper eyelids, brushing just 0.0 millimeters away from the eyeball. But my memory only stays in the moment before the impact, and the strong will to survive after the impact let me stand up desperately picture, for the moment of the real impact, I have no memory at all. Later, I asked a lot of friends who had similar experiences, and they were not impressed by the moment the accident happened.
What do you think of this, the medicine that may last a lifetime, and the peaceful coexistence with depression?
My brain works like this with self-paralysis when it comes to taking medication. I try not to think about the meaning behind taking the medicine, and try to avoid the meaning of this. Apart from the side effects of taking the medicine itself, the last thing I can face is the sense of shame it brings.
Sickness - shame on illness, shame on the disease, shame on the disease. Every pill is like a hit, telling me that I'm not the optimistic, cheerful person everyone likes to see, but a negative, gloomy patient.
So whenever someone asks, I am "vitamin" "health care products" "gastric medicine" what nonsense, determined not to get a little bit of its true meaning.
But people also have a self-reinforcing psychology, with time and time again self-deception, and perhaps with the drug time and time again to play a role, my attitude to taking drugs, really become the same as the treatment of "daily vitamin" this matter so everyday. Or that ancient truth, the true meaning of things, not in the event itself, in the way you look at it.
People always want to live a lifetime, a lifetime of medicine, and a lifetime of eating, a lifetime of walking, a lifetime will regret, in reflection, in fact, the nature of several things.
Excluding the possibility of theology, everyone has and only this life, so the steps behind them do not fall, for their own life, there is no substance. Then just take a big step forward, what come, what is it.
If you find a friend next to you who is suspected to have depression, how can you encourage them to go to the doctor? What would they
want/don't want to hear? How can people who care about them help?
If it is me, I appear to say it is more convincing, after all, is also a melancholy predecessor (laughs). If I have not experienced depression in myself and find that my friends around me have the possibility of depression, I personally think:
First, shout out our slogan: "Learning makes me happy. " This is what I think is the most important thing, is to learn about depression from scratch.
Because many people will take it for granted that for the depressed patients, as long as good advice, let them want to open it. So in front of the patient, the life of chicken soup quotes, or self-intelligent use of radical method.
They're likely to say things like, "You're just too busy" and "What's so sad about that?" , "More people than you have gone", "Everyone is a little blue", "Who do you think you can afford?" And so on.
But it's cruel, it's like you say to a blind man, "Ah! The outside world is so beautiful! It's a pity you're blind! You can't see Yehahahahahaha! The same. If you are the closest and most trusted person in your patient, every word you say is hundreds or thousands of times more powerful.
Therefore, in order to help the people around the depression, the first thing to do is to learn. Through learning to understand depression objectively, understand that it is not a simple psychological problem, but a disease with physiological basis.
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When you've built a comparative system of scientific melancholy knowledge, here are four things to start with to help your melancholy friends:
1. Encourage patients to actively seek medical attention
Efforts should be made to break through the psychological barriers of patients, accompany patients to the hospital's psychiatric department to seek treatment.
2. Follow the doctor's instructions
In the hospital and doctors are more reliable premise, try to follow and cooperate with the doctor's advice, whether it is medication, surgery, hospitalization, your role in the company and supervisor, to ensure that patients comply with the doctor's instructions, follow the treatment.
3. Help patients build confidence in their recovery
Your spiritual support is also crucial in the path to healing people with depression. Say more "I've always been there", "Let's refuel together to overcome depression", "I know you're in pain, it's because you're sick", "Treat well, I'll be with you", and seek the help of a professional psychologist if necessary.
4. Urge the patient to exercise in moderation
You should use your maximum patience to persuade the patient to move. Depression deprives them of the desire and motivation to move.
But moderate exercise is effective in the recovery of depression. Can also start from the patient's usual hobbies, accompany him to do something like, help him regain self-confidence, get back a sense of accomplishment.
But you have to be prepared enough, because it's likely that you're struggling to talk about dry lips, and he's still motionless; it's probably not easy to pull him out of the house, and he's going to hit the road back in five minutes; maybe he's halfway through chess, and he's suddenly unresponsive or flips his face
You'll often "hot-faced to cold ass" and often "kindly be treated like a donkey's liver and lungs", but that's the norm, and from the moment you decide to convince him, you'll be prepared to be constantly rejected, ignored, disappointed, and even desperate.
To help the depressed patients, first of all, they must hone a more brave, brave forward strong heart.