Perhaps after being bullied you, still sad, but believe, through the most painful moment, you are on the road to healing. Don't be afraid to say how you feel, don't force yourself to fight back, the most important thing is to find someone who can help you and not let yourself fall into interpersonal isolation.
"They formed a circle and then said nothing when I couldn't see it. 」
"A lot of people attack me online, even if they don't know me at all. 」
"When I was a child, I was bullied, and now I think about it, I still want to cry. 」
These stories are not uncommon, whether on the Internet or in daily life, there are always people who are experiencing the pain of being bullied.
April 14th is International Pink Day, which originates in a Canadian secondary school. In 2007, the promoter, Jarvis, decided to call on everyone on campus to wear pink in response to anti-bullying and guard the victims after witnessing a classmate in a pink shirt being bullied.
After being hurt, the bullies may suddenly lose trust in the people around them and fall into depression and depression. The study also suggests that people who have experienced bullying may continue to be in a traumatic state and unable to socialize well and open their hearts.
However, the occurrence of bullying is never who can control, everyone is a complete individual, there is no so-called power between people, so hurt, absolutely believe that they have the possibility of healing, but also qualified to live a good life.
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You deserve more love than you think
In 2012, a film called The Perks of The Want A Wallflower talked about bullying. The main character Charlie because of the shadow of childhood, has not been good at interacting with people, and thus in school has become the target of bullies. At school, he would be dragged into the toilet and beaten, tripped and ridiculed, but he wouldn't fight back because he was "used to" the pain.
Bullying sometimes happens early, before we can tell the line between people. At that time, we could not discern what was called true care, what was emotional blackmail, and power control. What others say, I accept it all, others reject me, I can't accept myself.
According to the study, the earlier bullying occurs, the deeper the pain in the heart tends to be, and people lose confidence as a result. If you can, practice thinking about your strengths, why others like you, and then refuse to believe words that deny you, because that's often not true.
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Find a support group and let them catch you
Bullying is easy to happen to unique people, you may be because of unique bullying. But in fact, there are people who have always appreciated your uniqueness, but you don't find out, and he may not be able to tell you.
Also in the film "The Wall Flower Boy", Charlie accidentally made important friends in class, always saw his strengths, and therefore let him find that the original ability to give, the original can love, "I understand that my life is not a sad story, when I and the people who love me together, I feel the infinite life." Charlie said.
Do you have such friends in your life? They bring light to your life and make you believe in yourself, because they believe in your good from the bottom of my heart and pull you out of the abyss of loneliness. Support groups give not compassion, genuine love and support, and most importantly, needs and giving to each other.
After being bullied, what people need most is a sense of belonging, so it is very important to find friends and loved ones who can accompany them. If you have people around you, don't worry, try to seek help, through professional resources, without allowing yourself to bear all the pain and weight alone.
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You are not a victim, you are a survivor of power
Changing your mind and not trapping yourself in grief and confusion is also an important way to recover from bullying.
When we shift the power of grief and try to change our minds, we do not ignore or deny the pain, but focus on self-fulfillment and growth. Start thinking about what parts you want to be more progressive, better, and then make changes, maybe you're not good at sports, or you want to be better at a foreign language, so why not act on that? You can also talk to friends and family, discuss your weaknesses, and then start making changes, so that you gain the power of control.
Goddess Kaka is a good example.
"Your nose is so big that it laughs ugly. How can your dream be achieved if it is too big? In an interview with Rolling Stone magazine and Variety, she said she had been hurt psychologically and physically. However, she has always believed that the best way to respond to these bullies is to self-fulfill, grow hard, and then leave them speechless.
Today, the goddess Kaka devotes her power to her music creation, and says that when she performs on stage, she feels the energy best. And these energies are also transmitted from the stage to the hearts of fans, and to the world.
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After the most painful moments, you are on your way to healing
Perhaps after being bullied you, still sad, but believe, through the most painful moment, you are on the road to healing. Don't be afraid to say how you feel, don't force yourself to fight back, the most important thing is to find someone who can help you and not let yourself fall into interpersonal isolation.
If bullying continues, switching environments is definitely an effective way to do so. Leaving the scene of the injury can really crack the vicious circle and give yourself a chance to rebuild. But most of all, don't worry.
On International Pink Day, let us face up to bullying and believe in the possibility of healing, because you are so precious.