Thirty years old, or near thirty, is a turning point in the formal stage of life for many people. In the face of the current situation and choice, many times in the sloppy life, it is difficult to figure out why they are disappointed and anxious about the situation.
Anxiety, from the vague choice, and the ideal life of the near, you stop in place, refuse to move forward, in fact, you are not so sure, the unhappiness and discomfort of the moment, whether it comes from the environment, or from their own?
How do you figure out what work means to you?
"Meaning" is the generator that drives things to happen, and when internal and external factors work together to charge your life and work, you will have relatively enough energy to contribute positively, and a sense of accomplishment will return to you.
Therefore, when you meet the work card pass, for their current situation feel tied hands and feet, full of complaints and helplessness, the first step please start a "dialogue with yourself", you can through the following four inquiries, initial communication with yourself:
- Do you have a "why to live your life" that drives you to find goals and meanings in life?
- Where is the most accomplished job for you?
- Do you like yourself in this job? If you don't like it, is it because of something that can change?
- In this job, do you continue to grow, bringing you closer to your "ideal life" and "ideal self"?
It is useless to complain about the current situation, focusing on "clarifying the status quo" and "self-assessment".
Take Joy, Google's engineering manager who has moved from finance to technology, who believes that the most important thing in the face of a transition is "self-assessment", and that the starting point for the assessment is that you must understand your needs well enough, combine environmental factors, the resources at hand, and the opinions of others, and you can systematically put together important options to break through the situation, using these options as a starting point, step by step, you can have a clearer picture of the "possible options".
3 decision-making steps for transferees
Joy, who studied business administration at the university, entered the financial industry as soon as he graduated, and a few years later found himself out of step with the financial industry system, unable to adapt to the more rigid system, but also uncomfortable with the affiliation of the inability to open dialogue.
"In the financial industry, for the first time, I found myself so greedy, " Joy shares, as he watches the stock market, both at work and after work, where numbers hold on to life and erode the mind. In the end, he was determined to leave his years-long job and leave the financial industry altogether, only because he asked himself two core questions:
"What value do you expect to bring to yourself or the world in a job?" 」
"Do you like yourself in your present job?" 」
When he found that the working conditions and atmosphere of the financial industry could hardly be changed, nor could he find the goals and meaning to leave behind, he strengthened his determination to change his job.
Joy says it's important to have the courage to change when you find out you don't like your current job, and when you clearly understand that you "don't want anything," clarifying "what you want" is the most important thought for the next stage.
(Extended reading: Transfer is a tired thing: how to plan long-term career development? ）
Link the pursuit of the core of your career with the desire for an ideal life, so that the core of your processing will be placed in your career, not in your career alone. After all, life and the workplace, this is one, should not always be separated to talk about.
Once the needs have been clarified, the most important thing is how to act. When you're determined to make a transition plan, try the three steps Joy offers:
The first stage is to understand what kind of life you want to live and what you want to achieve. At this stage, you can try to spread out the options to see if the possibilities of each option match the expectations. In the "self-assessment" process, the most important thing is to "clarify what you love" and other more realistic aspects have yet to be done in the next phase of risk management and assessment.
Risk management, including financial, experience, self-expectation and other orientations. Prior to the transfer, a comprehensive assessment of the situation encountered during the transfer may be made to establish whether he or she will be able to maintain a minimum quality of life during the transfer to achieve the objective of switching runways.
Take Joy, a Google engineering manager who, in his career transition, found that his academic experience at the time was simply not possible to apply for a position such as "engineer", and under a risk assessment, he felt the need to return to college and research, and he had to plan carefully for the duration of his studies before he had a chance to complete a 2-4-year transfer plan.
The purpose of risk assessment is to ensure that you are within a relatively safe range, to give yourself a sense of stability, to assess your ability to take risks, not to push yourself into a fire pit without being prepared, and to be one of the most important routine tasks in transition.
3. Close communication
Transfers must be accompanied by difficulties and uncertainties, and once planned, seek assistance from important people in your life.
Both financial and emotional support are important at this stage. Decision-making power is in your own hands, but in contrast, you will also need to support the voice of the group, giving you a lot of stimulation and empathy. Positive support can give you confidence, negative voices can prompt you to think, all communication, will strengthen your understanding of yourself during this time.
When you transfer, you will begin the next chapter of your life
Many people are afraid of changing jobs, is worried about their past investment in vain, so would rather put themselves in an uncomfortable environment, "painful work" as a daily, think that life is such a "tough" over.
But in fact, no experience can be wasted, so "unfortunately" should not be the reason for the stagnating. At the end of this article, I would like to conclude with Tom Cruise's classic film "Conquering the Sea of Love", inviting you to remember, invite everyone, get back to work, give yourself courage, and carry out possible actions.
At the beginning of the film, Jerry Maguire, a young, talented sports agent, wrote an open letter one night to employees across the company, known as mission statement, about Jerry Maguire's first thoughts on his job and his desire for the sports industry.
Photo | film "Conquering the Sea of Love."
The letter, entitled "The Things We Think And Do Not Say" (what we know but don't say), was the beginning of a life-changing life.
In his letter, he wrote: "Less customers, give each customer a little more attention." Make less money and do more public good. Love yourself a little more and start living really. A week after the company received the letter, Jerry Maguire was fired, bringing a fish, a second-tier player who trusted him and an accounting lady to leave the company where he had devoted half his life.
Everything seemed to start from scratch, and he had to take on all the basic things and run an unnamed company, but throughout he still had his name, his players he trusted, and the muscle memories he had developed from all his past work experiences.
Transfer, transfer, leave, will certainly encounter the same dilemma, you have to take a little time to make up for the lack of expertise, and not used to. However, believe in your choices and believe in everything you leave behind in the first half, including ability, connections and experience, and that will be your gift.