In the face of the extended three-level alert, "stop school non-stop learning" also followed the extension, directly all the way to the children summer vacation! - Recommend 4 actions for parents who are at home against the epidemic.
Changes in work distance, social distance from others, etc., have dramatically changed family life around the world, including in Taiwan.
Among them, parents go through a lot of things, including how we take care of our children while working from home. Therefore, today I would like to give parents living at home a series of simple guidelines, through the following four actions, you can maintain their own work stable output, while doing a good job of the role of parents:
1. Make a clear division of childcare with your partner
If you have strong partners (e.g. partners, co-parents, etc.) in child-rearing, you can work together to share the responsibilities of childcare equally.
And if at home, you and partners on the concept of parenting, or therefore dispute, you can first try to complete the common care of the part, others can spend more time to coordinate and communicate, don't forget your common expectations, are hope to give children a better learning environment.
In addition, partners should have good communication and weigh each other's responsibilities, such as when one person needs to get the job done, the other can stop and care about the children, or take a break and recharge.
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2. Seek assistance from the resources around you
If you're a single parent or mom, remember to rely on a possible support system, whether it's a friend, family member, or neighbor who can help you, ask for help when necessary, and don't feel guilty about asking for help. Of course, you have to make sure that your child is healthy with other people who are willing to help you.
If you have to take care of your children while you're at home, remember to keep in touch with colleagues, supervisors, and be transparent about your situation, keeping in touch gives you a good idea of your new work status, syncing with each other avoids misunderstandings caused by unnecessary information gaps, and provides you with opportunities to communicate normally.
For your child, try to help them keep in touch with one or two classmates and friends, and without normal social activities at school, children are more likely to feel isolated, they will miss school, miss friends, and it is important to pay attention to their emotional state while studying at home.
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3. Establish communication habits with your child
During the epidemic, not only parents feel helpless, but children will also. Therefore, the establishment of open communication with children, exchange ideas and moods of the safety net, help each other heal, understand each other.
Remember to tell your child that if they feel depressed, uncomfortable, or anxious in an online class, they can always talk to you, after all, in the face of new things, everyone may have something that doesn't fit, please tell your child, even adults, that we are still learning.
Of course, online learning can also have negative effects, and if you find your child over-indulged in online activities, games, or communities, you can try active support and encouragement, inviting him to engage in other activities, such as reading, exercising, or other offline activities.
Each child is unique, they may need to communicate in different ways, there may be different emotions during home vaccination, you can take the time to adjust your condition, while understanding your child's needs, will help you communicate the best way to live at home.
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4. Be flexible, but also set the necessary restrictions for your child
It is important to set the necessary restrictions for your child during long-distance work. In other words, giving your child a certain amount of time to watch cartoons, using electronics, giving them more flexible play space to keep them busy while you work can help you stay focused for personal time, but you need to establish the basic principle with your child that "this freedom will not last forever." 」
In addition to opening up the restrictions of the past and setting new rules, when you need to work hard, you should also tell your child when to enter the "do not disturb" mode, suspension means "even at home, we still have to complete as students", suspension is not a holiday, but we must start a new mode of life.
Working from home and stopping school is a real challenge for parents, you have to play multiple roles in the same space at the same time, and you have to be able to switch at any time without affecting the principles and performance of either side, this matter is particularly difficult in the epidemic, many foreign reports, but also can see that over the past year a considerable number of people are discussing related issues.
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Dear reader, if you still have a little card off, that is normal, you may need a little time to adjust their living conditions, or really can not, you can try to communicate with the supervisor, to see if you can approve the application for epidemic prevention care leave in the short term, to adjust the good condition before returning to work.
If you are not sure about your personal state during this period, or if you need more ways to ease your anxiety, we will continue to provide you with the necessary back-up, remember that all problems are not your responsibility alone, practice embracing your weak self, and then find a secure support network that will allow us to feel safe in times of uneasiness.