Through the sharing of parent-child relationship and previous marriage, Rose shows us that different life experiences still have value!
In the first episode of "Telling Xuan Xuan", Zou Kailian Rose, former managing director of Verizon Media International Business, was invited to share with us some of life's secrets, secrets of success, and untold life stories.
Rose first talks about parent-child relationships
Rose's son Sean also stuttered, "When you saw your son have such a challenge, did you blame yourself for the first moment?" Wei Xuan asked. "I know he's definitely inherited from me." Rose laughed, she said that of course she was a little worried, but because she had overcome it, she would tell her son that her mother used to be like this, and don't be afraid that it would definitely be overcome.
Rose observed that the child really had a lot of stuttering for quite some time, from the upper elementary school to the middle school, and he sometimes stuttered when talking to his family, as well as preparing for a speech. Rose asked her son what to do if you really wanted to publish it, and she admired him.
Her son looked at it in a rather positive light, "I still finished talking about it today, of course there will still be people laughing, but it doesn't matter that I still finished talking and came back." The son replied. Hearing this, Wei Xuan was moved by Rose's admiration for her son, which is a very important support for children.
Rose shared how last night when her son was struggling with his English essay to be handed in, they discussed their son's upbringing and thought about which one had a big impact on him. Then the son suddenly ran over and said, "Mom, I have an idea, and I decided to discuss my stutter."
Rose further asked him how he planned to discuss, and then dissected together what stuttering happened and what didn't. Although I don't know how good my son's stutter is in the end, Rose's observation is that when you have something inside you that you really want, you suddenly start to forget what you don't have, or what gets in the way.
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You suddenly think whatever, I just can. "When your beliefs are as big as your pursuits, you actually forget yourself." Wei Xuan said with emotion, and at this time, the so-called dedication will actually happen.
When you're ready, when you really have something to say, you have the means to say it. If you find that love and pursuit of life, there is a way. And her son's becoming a student council representative was even more touching and incredible for Rose.
The son himself has a stutter, grades are not the best, introverted, one day took the initiative to choose a student union representative, he took the initiative to do this, and the opponent is a top student plus a stormy figure, others think you have to do it, but this matter made her and the child open a great conversation.
Rose always believed that it didn't matter if she won or lost, and in her heart, her son had already won. One of the things he did was that 80% of the whole school would think that it had nothing to do with him, because he didn't belong to that class, so he didn't think about it.
But the son thought about it and did it, and he had already won, and in her mind, he had won. And when he really won, it was incredible, and this incident actually encouraged her son's junior sister, she also had to elect student representatives, and thought why girls were always deputies, she wanted to run for the right position.
This change and energy made Rose feel that being a mother is the most fulfilling thing. Not because the child was chosen, but because he saw the child find his own worth.
And Rose actually has a paragraph dedicated to her 16-year-old son:
"As long as you are brave and do it, there is no failure, and the biggest failure is standing still. If you want to try, pursue, and change, don't think about the chances of success, just do it. Every attempt you make becomes your own asset, and no one can take it away."
"Success and failure are a backward view, and that ruler is often your own expectations or the eyes of others. Don't be afraid, don't be held back by these expectations, how rich your life is, how far you can go, depends on how brave you are. Work hard towards that goal, and God will definitely help you along the way!"
Rose talks about the life changes brought about by "divorce"
Divorce is quite difficult in the perspective of many people, she wants to divorce very much, but she does not dare to divorce. "For the sake of all of us who watched and listened to the show, I would like to ask, what made you make this choice in the presence of a public figure? And now you have a second happy marriage. Can you give us some simple advice?" Wei Xuan asked.
"I'm really grateful to my mom, who said you gave me a divorce." Because when we make our own bad decisions, you more or less feel like we have to face it. Not just in the face of that marriage, because no matter how bad the marriage is, there must be some good things, I always come from a bunch of good and bad, I just can see that those good things are still valuable."
"I always felt that maybe I would change him, that he would change because of me. And getting along with two people with very different personalities also expanded my life experience." Rose talks softly, but cheating also brings some real harm during the marriage.
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"If you find out one day that your diamond wedding ring or a blank check is missing, and someone calls your office and the hotel asks you for hotel money. In that situation, you still more or less want to avoid talking about it, until this incident breaks out, I feel that God is so loving, His love is to face it, and know where my pain points are.
My pain point is PR, so when my husband has an affair, I don't know. When I was traveling with my colleagues, suddenly our PR called me and said that I would read and publish your husband on Thursday of the week. They photographed your husband in the hotel, and my parents told me about divorce as soon as I got home."
At this point, Rose believes that the most grateful is the parents, they don't blame, it's quite incredible. They didn't talk about it all the time, they didn't tell you, even if they mentioned it about once. They just said it was over.
Today's audience, if your parents are not like this, always give you a lot of discipline, ask for a lot of direction, or blame you for not doing enough in the family, please forgive them. Rose says that as children, we must forgive them for not knowing what they don't know because their life experiences are different. But you don't need to forget your worth because of this.