Have you ever met a partner during sex asking for a condom? Crack what kind of people don't like to wear condoms, and the same scene plus two tricks to teach you how to ask each other to wear condoms!
The time sequence turns, stepping into the autumn high air, chrysanthemums bloom in September, the East and the West regard this season as the harvest season, but did you know that September is also the legendary month of abortion?
Abortion has always been a constant concern for women of childbearing age, and we have either experienced or witnessed the debate on whether abortion is legal or not, and there have been discussions on forums from time to time about whether to wear a condom during sexual intercourse.
Before giving a conclusion, let's first look at how abortion has been viewed and discussed under the long river of history, and then sort out those big and small things about wearing condoms.
History of induced abortion (abortion).
The legalization of abortion is not a new topic, and the long history of abortion has printed imprints on how society controls the uterus, allowing us to mark several major events related to abortion and look at the development of abortion together.
The earliest surviving record of abortion in history is from ancient Egyptian medical books dating back to 2,000 BC. Before the budding of modern medicine, there were hundreds of ways for women to have abortions, from drinking mercury, arsenic and other highly toxic and invasive curettage, vacuum aspiration, to beating the abdomen, these ancient abortion methods not only have a low success rate, but also may cause harm to the mother.
The ineffectiveness of abortion methods does not receive any sympathy before those who practice discipline in the name of morality and religion.
Following the Buddhist view of reincarnation, many countries in the East encourage prolific production, and the same discipline abortion behavior, including the development of Christianity.
Christianity values chastity, and sexual activity is only justified in a formal marriage. In the 13th century, the Catholic Church regarded fetal movement as the standard for fetal life, and if a pregnant woman felt the fetal movement, abortion was prosecuted as fetal fetal felonide.
In the 18th and 19th centuries after the Industrial Revolution, in order to serve the large number of manpower required for political and economic development, modern countries worked harder to control the population, and abortion became a target under the knife, and the state and science joined hands to intervene in fertility, which also marked that the history of abortion officially entered the most drastic transformation period.
In the first half of the 20th century after the stable development of the population, the Nordic countries gradually opened up conditional abortion, but the gradual opening of the birth control culture does not mean that the people's attitude towards abortion will be open.
The time has come (2022), Roe v. Wade ushered in the final trial, and the US Supreme Court overturned nearly 50 years of women's artificial abortion property rights with a single judgment. The justice, who authored the opinion, wrote, "The right to abortion is not deeply rooted in American history and tradition." It shows that abortion for women is not a constitutional right.
As a result, the legalization of abortion, which has been debated for nearly a century, seems to have been beaten back to square one, and the activists, law enforcement agencies, and people involved in it may find that we have entered the next cycle, and those similar pictures of people rising up to fight, confrontations being created, and arguments being put forward are once again playing out before our eyes.
One wonders, when will this battle for the womb come to an end?
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How does Taiwan regulate abortion (abortion)? Will the amendment of the Eugenics Health Care Act protect pregnant women?
At this point, we have sorted out the long history of abortion and know that the difference in abortion at different times is only in the size of the restraint force, but in general, it is not supported.
Bringing the distance closer, what about Taiwan, where we are? How does the current law view abortion?
According to Article 288 of the Criminal Law, unless due to illness, involuntary pregnancy, the birth of the fetus will affect the physical and mental condition of the pregnant woman or the biological father of the fetus, and is the object of marriage to the mother according to the law, abortion by a woman still constitutes a criminal offense in Taiwan; Physicians who assist in abortion may also be charged with the crime of "processing abortion" or "the crime of processing abortion for profit".
It is worth noting that if the pregnant woman is a minor, she must obtain the consent of the guardian to have an abortion; If a married woman wants to have an abortion, she needs the consent of her spouse.
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Although in order to specifically implement the autonomy of pregnant women guaranteed by CEDAW, China passed the draft amendment to the Eugenic Health Care Law in 2022 to delete the provisions on the right to consent of spouses, the specific implementation time of the law has not been determined, so women are still silenced on the matter of abortion before the actual implementation of the regulations.
However, the harm of abortion is inflicted on women, regardless of sexual assault, unintended pregnancy is often due to lack of safety measures, so why do people encounter difficulties in practicing safe sex? Is it really that practical to wear condoms at all times?
Why is safe sex always difficult?
Let's start with the wearing of condoms from a woman's point of view.
The reason why it is difficult for women to refuse not wearing a condom is nothing more than the fear of interrupting the atmosphere accumulated during foreplay, in addition, in order to avoid the efforts of both parties falling short, they want to continue the pleasant feeling of the moment, and choose between wearing or not wearing the latter.
Or, because you don't know how to ask for it, you accept the request not to wear a condom in order to make your partner happy when your partner asks for no condom.
So in the case of emotional importance, it is difficult for women to say no to unsafe sex, and their autonomy over the body is quietly being eroded.
And what about men? What kind of boy would not want to wear a condom?
The answer from the British Medical Journal (The BMJ) is men who think they are attractive.
"Men who think they are attractive may feel that they are more likely to persuade their partner not to use condoms than less attractive men", and the more attractive a person thinks, the more likely he is to think that he can use his charm to persuade the other person not to use it, and he has a successful experience of persuasion. , and some people believe that not wearing condoms is a display of masculinity, and the process of not wearing condoms can increase confidence in their sexual ability.
In addition, many people believe that not wearing condoms during sex will increase comfort and pleasure, because they are worried that condoms will reduce sexual stimulation, and the invention of the pre-event contraceptive pill makes some men expect their partners to take drugs to replace condoms.
The absence of a condom thus becomes justified and seen as a symbol of mutual love, but isn't the symbol of love supposed to be "safe sex"? And women really can't regain their physical autonomy, and the brave and favorite object says that they just want to have safe sex?
How do you express the expectation of wearing a condom?
Maybe you can first ask yourself whether the layer of condom between you and the other person will be the key to the development of your relationship?
Whose needs are ignored and whose pleasure is considered priority during this sexual act? If the other person doesn't care about your security, is the relationship worth continuing?
Or the possible outcome of a momentary fish and water fun and unsafe sex, how do you choose?
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- Open and honest communication: Discuss the importance of condoms frankly before having sex and make sure both partners understand the importance of contraception and STD prevention.
- Prepare in advance: Loosen the gender framework, try to discard the presupposition that condoms must be prepared by men, when preparing for sex, women can prepare condoms in advance, and then naturally take out the condoms, in addition to showing your expectations, but also to avoid the situation that someone will hold you back on the grounds that you do not have a condom.
The importance of condoms in sexual relations cannot be ignored, it not only provides contraceptive protection, but also effectively reduces the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, hoping that we will no longer arbitrarily modify our bottom line, just to cater to each other.
Of course, in addition to women's efforts, men are also the key to promoting safe sex, so you should also bring your own condoms to enjoy respectful, safe and pleasant sex with women!