Dear, is now, to look at their own heart, your health is OK? Did the enthusiasm for the job fall by a few percent, or is there an upward trend? Do you still have a dream and a real smile? Or have you been away from home for a long time? Instead of using the excuse of "having more important responsibilities waiting for me" to cover up your unhappiness, be honest with yourself about what you are afraid to lose and what you truly desire; Because you are the most important person in the world to yourself.
Sometimes women, especially those with a sense of ambition, often ask themselves to be the superwoman of all things, because they believe that by training themselves with superwoman standards, they can play their wives, mothers, daughters, girlfriends and other characters. But in the end, the brutal and helpless reality is that they are the perpetrators of the black hole that pushes themselves into greater anxiety and depression. The desired sense of accomplishment and intimacy is just flying low and even disproportionately embarrassing.
In women's life, the age can not be reversed, the other person or oneself to give themselves more and more pressure, every day like the endless running on the treadmill, even press the pause, seems to be decided by you. Whether there is a family to care about, there is a company meeting to open, or a lot of part-time work, or all together, these real to no life plot, let women have to bite teeth, with the "brave" mask, the fragile temporary confinement, until the heart finally can not help but faint sobbing, you wake up. ( extended reading: "30 taut hug" director Pamberth, exposing the 30-year-old woman's fragility and beauty )
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a superwoman, but one thing we all forget: take care of someone else's heart and take care of it equally.
Now, say these words with me:
I'm very important.
I'm worth it.
I deserve to be happy.
How many things have you done with these simple words? Dear, is now, to look at their own heart, your health is OK? How long have you been forgetting your interests? Did the enthusiasm for the job fall by a few percent, or is there an upward trend? Do you still have a dream and a real smile? Or have you been away from home for a long time?
Instead of using the excuse of "having more important responsibilities waiting for me" to cover up your unhappiness, be honest with yourself about what you are afraid to lose and what you truly desire; Because you are the most important person in the world to yourself. ( extended reading: The pleasure of being given by others, not true happiness )
But I guess your heart might think:
"I feel guilty about just enjoying my time," he said. 』
Dear, you really worry, but relatively speaking, you have to deal with this natural reverse half of the responsibility. If you do not allow others to take your care for granted, your time will definitely be more respected by everyone. to be needed, is indeed a kind of affirmation of self-worth, but over and over, causing only harm, and that guilt, in the final analysis, you give yourself, this is why?
"But me time sounds like a very extravagant thing." 』
Who told you what it was that made you feel like you were enjoying yourself and that time was synonymous with luxury? In fact, me time never needs to be a big deal, or think of it very distance, as long as you can find the inner happiness in the present, no matter what, it is your me time. Even better, enjoy Me time without spending any dime!
So, are you ready?
Now there are 8 Me time exercises; think about what kind of exercise you're feeling today, and start from there!
1. Let go of what you have at hand.
Choose a place you like, either on the bed, in your home backyard, on the living room floor, in the lounge sofa, or just stay where you are. Let all the clutter in your head be emptied temporarily, enjoying the calm of a few minutes, and the beauty of doing nothing. Again, imagine your whole being trapped beneath the surface, into the secret base that only you can enter, and nothing in the world has anything to do with you; This peace comes from the universe's love for you, please do not reject his destiny. Open your hands, relax your shoulders, close your eyes ; now, how do you feel? ( extended reading: put down.) Venting Put it flat. Assured Let go )
2. Consciously enjoy what is happening now
Open all the senses, look around the world, and listen carefully to what the music is playing, the sound of the cold wind, the bustle of the window, the chirp of the birds, or the frantic high heels in the office. Whether it's man-made or natural, they're going to turn into annoying noises, or a fantasy concerto, it's all up to you! Even drinking water can be your Me time. (P.S. Don't wait for the thirst to drink, because it's the body protesting against you!) When drinking water, training their undivided attention, and holding the heart of thanksgiving to drink it, after all, can drink to clean pure water, is a how happy privilege! No matter what happens, it can be a good time to talk to yourself, and the point is to consciously enjoy every moment. ( extended reading: The more you drink the more beautiful!) 6 correct "Drinking water Method")
3. To yourself, but also to others a love hug
Don't be shy, take the initiative to hug a person, also take the initiative to invite others to give you a hug! In this one, the heart of each other's body temperature, and two hearts so close to the moment, because the hug is the world's most priceless and most precious thing. If you can, turn a hug into a good habit, open your hands sincerely, open your heart, let each hug remind you: You are loved, everything will be all right! ( extended reading: To become a hug wall )
4. Make a reservation for your Me time
I couldn't find the time to turn over the book I had just bought, and the afternoon tea with my sisters was always changed; shouting to go hiking but nothing else ..., since you already have so many want to do, do not have endless paper, quickly write into the calendar, for Me time to keep the exclusive hours! Not because they can be "waiting", holding the " OK, wait, " The attitude of drag and drop; Drag to the end, the most likely result is that you are too lazy to touch, and the good also disappeared.
5. Hands are omnipotent! Be your own great artist!
Hands to touch things every day, to the number of words is really not the end!
But on average, is the longest time left to the keyboard and cell phone? In this way, your hands will only become more and more not gung-N, let your hands breathe fresh air, do DIY! You can try to have the healing effect of the small indeed, like, pencil sketch, folding a paper airplane or love, making a small bookmark, sewing a change bag, a scarf, bold design nail polish patterns , and even to buy a few vanilla potted, enjoy the fun of being a city farmer! ( Extended reading:"design diy" mini Small World creative Modelling potted terrarium) These ordinary beautiful, not only can temporarily let you escape the invariable life, the flexibility of both hands can also get a better promotion And from these noble and inexpensive hand live, you will find yourself, originally also very arty, originally oneself, still have so many infinite possibility!
6. Replace the screen desktop/protection program with a word of encouragement!
It can be a quote you love, or the person you care most about, the pet, or even the dream buried in your heart. When you need them, they can immediately remind, and guard your goals and expectations, so that you can be more firmly in the direction of not regretting, become even oneself want to meet the one yourself!
7. Every time you read, do not rush to read, a chapter on the good
A reading time, a section, a good cup of tea or a cup of mellow coffee. Such a perfect 1:1:1, compared to a whole book after reading, more people look forward to! A good book is worth tasting slowly, like a good cup of tea and a good coffee. In this moment, no one can disturb your time of embracing the soul of the book author. With anticipation, you will also be willing to take the initiative to arrange the next time for me, instead of waiting for another one months to remember. Does that sound great? ( extended reading: Let's read a little more romantic romance novel introduction )
8. Call the person you miss
Although I time is mainly my own dialogue with the times, but perhaps you still miss who, but to press a phone key, do not hesitate to call the missing him/her! In the heart of the words of the gentle transmission, whether or not the other party did not listen to, at least you can have a stable account of their own; After the phone call, you can start to enjoy the solitude of mind without distractions. When the heart of the care put down, even if just sit quietly, happiness will not invite to come! ( extended reading: Have love, in fact, we are very happy )
After reading these eight proposals, is Me time more simple than you think? Womany hope that every woman can be not stingy to their own better, empty Me time, to supplement the energy of happiness every day, but more importantly, we can really make life colorful beautiful, because less ado, more cherish the present, everything will be very good.
But the story has not finished! We have more wonderful Me time proposal, want to dedicate to the dearest you, please pay attention to our dynamic, see you next time! (Try again:the 16 little exercises of Me time)